Giving up on my career

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Unless you kill them or do something like light them on fire, yelling at your kids if you have them or even "spanking" them won't screw them up. My parents spanked and yelled at me I turned out mostly not screwed up and don't consider it abuse, unless your meltdowns leads you to assault someone or your kids merely getting upset at your kids isn't grounds for abuse in my opinion. Kids are more sturdy then we give them credit for, just don't kill them and they will be fine.

Also just to be clear, I am not condoning anyone to beat their children, just saying it takes someone damn near psychotic to cause lasting harm. I mean, I personally wouldn't spank my children but I am just saying I don't consider my upbringing abusive. It was ineffective cause I don't think I ever connected the punish to the behavior but beyond that I don't view it as a scar.

Ah, that makes a little more sense. Still weird that they'll not hire a married couple unless they worry that they'd lose one of you if theres arguments or something.

That's a scary list -- is it for avoiding people or just hating them?

It's just basically a list of people I want nothing to do with.

And now I made a mistake of asking for a new job coach. What if this person is just as incompetent as my last job coach? And what if they find me a good job, but the catch is I have to leave my volunteer position at the animal shelter because the schedules will conflict with one another. I'll never win...

Hi Witch's Cat. If you have to choose between the paid and the volunteer position, choose the paid one. That's assuming it's a job you think you might succeed at.

In most cases, you could go back to a volunteer position if the paid gig does not work out - or to a similar volunteer position.

But this is putting the cart before the horse. Don't worry about an eventuality that may never come.

I've not had much luck with job coaches. Mine have all been a bit obtuse. Do you have to go to one?

I am FORCED to have one, meaning that if I get a job, I may have to leave the animal shelter. I tried to text my husband today to tell my support administrator to make sure I keep my volunteer position as I love the cats, BUT HE NEVER ANSWERED! they already forced me out of my dream job at the zoo administrative building, I don't want them forcing me out of the volunteer job, either. If I do, I WILL have a meltdown so big, almost everything I touch will break!

Well, I hope you are able to stay on at the animal shelter. I don't think the importance of volunteering should be ignored.