why is it.

Post Reply New Topic

You're at least two years away from being 30.

The flipside is the folks with really high standards have two options if they're still single - staying that way or lowering them.

I'm 28 which is basically 30. This as good as it's going get for me. I dont even know if I'll be able to keep my part time job.so if women won't see me as stable now then I'll never been seen as stable. So how does s disabled min wage worker find love???????

That's a very interesting question. My true opinion would probably be considered malicious and unproductive and cause me to be banned from this wonderful forum, so I'll restrict myself to saying that it'll likely be of great difficulty to find love.

Would be curious to see if there's any testimonies from people with success stories despite hard lives.

So give up and die is my only option

Bare in mind that most people consider me to be out of my mind and nobody would date me in a billion years, so my views on the subject may be biased and/or completely unfounded in reality. But in my opinion you do seem to be in quite an interesting situation and not in good way.

No



are you kidding?

there isn't a person posting on Wrong Planet that hasn't had their guts kicked in!



sly 279
when I said Your just young, I meant it in the best way possible
posting on internet sites is soon going to be ancient history



If you don't want friends, if you don't want love, if you don't want our company
if you don't want wisdom, if you don't want laughing, crying freaks explaining

I'm married- the same relationship for 12 years ago today.

I've never made more than 16.50 an hour at any job- and that was unusually high for me. I typically have made 13/hr when working. I've been unemployed for 4-5 of these 12 years and have not had any job more than 2 years 5 months- my current job- which I only have because my cheap boss don't like to fire people and pay toward their unemployment.

When I met my wife online, I didn't have a job and lived in my parents basement. Not a particularly nice basement either. I drove a 1992 Saturn where the driver's window had to be pulled up by hand and the inside smelled like a mix between an ashtray and a dogs ass. I was also well overweight and do not work out. I do not have nay particularly interesting hobbies. I did not go to college.

I grew up raised my a single-mother who gave birth to me at 18. She didn't even have so much as a HS diploma. My father left when I was 8. My mom went out to work full-time while I had to care for my two year younger brother. I grew up relatively poor (in an upper-middle class neighborhood) in roach infested apartments. These issues have cause me to be very untrusting, angry, materialistic and jealous.

While there are people with much harder lives than this, I managed to find someone. Luck, absolutely. But it happens. I encourage the OP to hold out hope...

You a doing far better than I was at 28. Sure I had my current full time job (I will never be well off sad to say but it pays the bills) but I never as much as kissed a girl on the cheek. Now, I am close to getting married and starting a family with an absolutely wonderful woman. It was HARD to get to where I am today and I wanted to quit so many times but I didn't. Before her, I was in a relationship with someone who didn't work, didn't drive and only had a handful of part time jobs.

If I wanted to dwell on my failures, I could crash this server. The nice thing about being rejected over and over is that you learn something every time.

Last I checked they aren't considered financially stable, who have you seen calling them financially stable?...people, males and females who work minimum wage are below the poverty line for the most part.

And its stuck up people, those who think monetary wealth = how valuable a person is, and those who think everyone who is poor is just lazy and not trying hard enough who think that for the most part. Those people will continue to think that way unless they have a rude awakening probably.

You act like poverty is a non-issue for women, well its not...we get insulted and looked down upon and not given the time of day to because of general stigma against the poor.

Yeah to straight men they sure are, and for straight women men are much more attractive than females.

I'm pretty sure you know what I meant.

I can say with absolute certainty that people look down upon me because I am poor. Coming from a relatively well-off family, it means that I get to deal with this attitude from relatives as well.

Men who are financially stable will likely not be interested in me. People with money can be quite arrogant and often see poverty as something caused by poor character, laziness, etc. In my case this is not true, because I've always tried, but I have so many problems to overcome that I haven't found success despite my ambitions.

I can't honestly see why any man with a good job, who is more or less normal, would even give me the time of day. Unless he's about 20-30 years older than I am. Why would anyone want to deal with my problems?

My being a woman isn't going to make my financial situation irrelevant to most men.

There are in fact serious class issues that bubble up when one partner comes up from a disadvantaged background and the other is well off. Not hard to find examples of this around here. But, I'd expect it to be a real deal breaker for a lot of Aspies because we aren't suppose to have class rivalry in America and don't talk about it.

Well me and other low class men wouldn't care one bit.
Would you date a man working min wage or prefer to date up? For many women they want to date up. Even jobless women say I'm not good enough for them.

I would date someone who I felt matched what I look for in a personality first. I don't want to rely on a man for money. I wouldn't mind one bit being the breadwinner in the relationship, as long as the work put in was equal.

I would want someone intelligent, with a lot of intellectual curiosity, who is kind and compassionate, has healthy habits, enjoys physical activity, and doesn't have major mental health issues (like schizophrenia, or pedophilia). Also good sense of humor.

Money really doesn't play much part. I wouldn't be impressed by some rich guy just because he was rich.

I grew up with money. My family has money. I'm not impressed by it. It doesn't indicate that a person has better character. Those that I know that are wealthy are for the most part arrogant and entitled.