Relationship Troubles

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Oh man. I screwed up. I posted before about meds making me act nutty and over texting my love interest. He will not speak to me and I don't blame him, but it somehow makes it worse. Like his pulling away (which I think is cruel) and makes me want to hunt him down, but I wouldn't. So we are broken up and I keep getting mad about it.

Been dating two months. I'm in my 40's and a female. I'm a hottie. Seriously I am. I have tons of men interested in me. ***Only mentioning this because it's not like I can't find somebody else. I can. Don't want to. Love this guy already and I know it's weird, but how do you know when you know?

This one is my keeper but I don't know how to explain to him that I made him a special interest. Or how to fix it. I've probably said too much.

Have you ever had "The One" come into your life then screw it up because you are an idiot? I'm soooooo confused.

Please help.

Yes, it happened to me ages ago and for the same reasons, I couldn't control myself and became overbearing. I scared her away and no, I couldn't fix it.

Learning self control can be very hard, AS adds some pretty awful complications to it, believe me I know and learned my lessons the hard way. It took me a huge amount of effort, will power and all kind of tricks to distract and prevent myself from doing stuff like this.

You say this is an effect of medication - can you talk to your doctor to change your meds or adjust the dose?

Otherwise I think you should back off for now and give him some time. Maybe later, when you're both calmer you could apologise and try to explain what happened. But keep in mind that you might have scared him away for good and if you keep pushing you'll just make things worse.

I'm really sorry for your situation, I don't know what else to say. Maybe you could try posting here when you feel the urge to contact him?

Good idea. Thank you. Today I was sitting there and realized.. OMG. This poor man. He probably thinks I'm a crazy stalker and it became apparent VERY quickly that I've made someone a special interest.

I do not connect with people very well... And it's either I love you or I don't. Mostly it's "I don't!! !" I don't like the way their hands feel or something... about most people. Rarely do I meet someone I even want to kiss much less connect with on a higher level.

So the question is.. kinda chicken or the egg? Do you just know when you know? From all the intuitive information we gather outside of being limited in some ways... which strengthens other data collection skills -- in my opinion.

Honestly... I'm like... "Okay dude. You're the one." I just know and I don't know how to fix it. I'll try what you said. But I'm sure you're right...

YEs I'm getting meds fixed later this month. Maybe need to leave him alone until then. HAHAHAHA.

I'm AN IDIOT!! !! !! !!

Don't be so hard on yourself, you're obviously not an idiot, just having a really hard time right now.

I've just seen your other post, and it sounds like you had a very strong reaction to the meds, is there any way you can see your doctor sooner? Or at least call him (the doc), tell him what's going on and ask if you can take a lower dose? If you're actually going through a psychotic break, you're putting yourself in danger. If you really feel like you can't stop yourself from doing something you know you shouldn't, go to the ER and ask for help.

As for the guy, yes, definitely wait, don't contact him until you sort yourself out. When you're calm and in control of the situation, you'll be a lot more capable of communicating with him and he'll me much more receptive too.

My dr retired. I'm out of the crisis stage. Actually better now thanks to getting off meds... But only just now weened off ... Have PDOC appointment next week. I'm not a risk to myself or anyone else. Really appreciate the concern as it's been tough, but more from my parents being in bad health and having a child W Aspergers to care for.. And no one I choose to have take care of mom.

thanks

You're welcome

Take care of yourself and I hope things get better for you and your family.

Thank you. This reaction to the meds was a new one on me. I seem to have the adverse reactions to a lot of meds. Very strange. This one though was worst ever.