Friend didn't invite me to ladies night

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I am so upset, this girl from my church who I thought was my friend had a ladies night get together and posted pictures on FB, and when I asked what it was for and if it was dress shopping she said "No. We were hanging out. And you dont need to be at every social thing I do, ok? Im sorry, but no." What the heck? She hasnt ever invited me to a single social thing shes done, ever. And then I said well sorry for asking I just felt excluded. She said theres no reason you should have felt excluded. But isnt that what you just did? And then to follow it up with an exclusive remark of I dont need to be at every social event you do. Wth? On top of that sh d made a fb post about a sushi get together and when I responded told me itwas cancelled and woulc reschedule it fof next week, then ended up cancelling again because she forgot sh ed had an appointment to get her phone fixed. Then she glared at me at church and didnt end up going to a small group prayer meeting that she was goingto go to after seeing that I was there. I dont know what to do

I hate that. I think she is trying to signal that she is "just not that into you" as a friend. Its really frustrating though because you don't even know what you did wrong that made her irritated with you as she isn't going to communicate it in a way folks like you and I understand.

She sounds like a not very nice person tbh.

For me, that is extremely obvious that she is trying to avoid you and doesn't want to hang around you at all. Some church people are the worst. This is why I don't do Facebook - it is too fake and phony. What she is doing is very rude and I would cut all ties off from her and never speak to her again. If you choose to remain on FB, then defriend her. Isn't that how people make a point on there that they don't like someone is by defriending them? Stupid games.

People have done that to me many times. That girl is not worth your time. Find someone who actually wants to hang out with you.

I'd take what the friend said at face value -- it's perfectly normal not to bite every single friend to every single thing.

If you enjoy the women's company, keep being friends with her. If not, cool the friendship.

I don't know why, but that girl is trying to send signals that she doesn't want you around her - that she wants to avoid you, she doesn't want friendship with you, maybe she is afraid that you think she is a friend, when she doesn't want a friendship with you.

This is an awful feeling - it's why I am so hesitant with people and afraid that I am somehow imposing - because of confusing things like this, where I thought someone was fine with me and then received signals that they were uncomfortable and didn't want to be friends.

I would say just completely stop trying to contact her anywhere - in person or online. Just act as if you don't even know each other for now. Once she feels she has enough distance/space for sure, maybe she will just act normal, but I wouldn't rely on her to be a friend.

Based on your most recent post along with this one tells me that she isn't capable of being a good friend and nor is she a real Christian. For one thing she is lying to you and acting very immature and unprofessional. Have you considered talking to your pastor about the way she has been treating you? What she is doing is an act of discrimination and it needs to be dealt with.

I went to a mega church for a little while where they had a singles group and like you I thought they were my friends. Though I was invited to the group events none of them ever called me or invited me to anything. They were also very immature.

Also are there other people who you get along with at that church? Even if they aren't your age?

I used to be part of church group during high school and first year of my university. I wasn't so active member but I am christian. Though as being a male, I find it happening a same to me. There was a singles group at my university years ago. No offense to tell you about this, these women I met there were so shallow, bitchy and narrow minded.

So what happens I found so many like minded female friends through an environmental group that I am involved in. I find people are very open minded and respectful who aren't religious. I am sorry to say this, but it is true in my life. I never made assumptions or rude remarks towards them, it just the way how they respond to autistic behaviour.

It could also be that we are smarter than a lot of these people and I think it burns them alive because they are insecure.

Unfortunately I agree with most of the other people here. She just isn't really that interested in being friends with you. Don't worry though I am sure you can find other people who you can be friends with. Don't worry about this girl anymore. Even if you do manage to hang out with her and her friends you will just be the tag-along that no one really wants to be there. I have been that person before and it doesn't really get you anywhere.