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I'm sorry . It just seemed like you we're trying to rally support against what I was saying. Women in the past have used the women's section to attack men. I felt hurt because you're nice and I thought we'd be friends and were helping me then that post.
At tame time it seemed like you stopped replying to my pm so I felt you disliked me.


There's two women. That constantly harassed me and other men her for years despit being banned over and over.

Really sorry if it came across as trash talking.

Of course I wasn't ignoring you sly I apologise I have an exam on Friday so I have been very busy and forgot to reply.

I accept that you have your own views and would not discredit that. The responses were mixed and some women did say they like financially stable men and at the same time some said they didn't mind.

It is helps my auntie is a full time business woman and makes a lot of money while my uncle is a part time cabbie. It is possibe although your areas sounds difficult.

Would you consider a long distance relationship?

Really becaus people here said work would make it bett. Your have s income sly and meet more people. Most people meet there spouse at work ......

On needs friends to get out and I can't afford to get out. Getting out is so expensive and a huge waste of money.

I'd rather buy a object that last for months and years then go and spend $50 on some food and expensive alcoholic drinks. That's what people do around here, eat and drink, or movies. We don't really have lot of entertainment out of clubs, bars, movie thester(2) and coffee shops. Have w whole lot of clubs and bars though. Or strip clubs that's the other place guys always want me to go to. I only want to see a gf nude in person. Being nude in person to me is a emotional thing. I don't get how guys go to those drink Booz and watch some lady they don't know strip or worse dance on them >.<

Forget about nudie bars, Sly....just forget about them!

I don't have any interest in them it's just what most single guys around here seem to do. I've had a bunch of males I know try to get me to go with them to one. They thought I was wierd for not going

I'm so sorry I never wanted to hurt you or anyone. I think I'm just but on the defensive side on this site from the past experiences.

Hugs ok?

Hope exams goes well.

I wouldn't care if I had a gf that makes more then me as long as she didn't treat me lessor for it.

I've in the past. The possible woman(never saw a picture) I got along with best lived in Iowa. But it'd probably only ever be short term. Not fair for me to hole a lady back from finding real relationship.

Only problem with ldr is it lacks the cuddling my, hand holding, kissing and sex of a relationship

All is forgiven (>^_^)>

Long distance is pretty difficult, I have been long distance with my bf and the physical stuff is hard.

Buy the emotional support is worth it. And it means that I have a reason to work hard so that one day we can live and be together all the time.

You have to let her make the decision and not assume yur holding her back. She may have rather been with you

I wouldn't discount a long distance relationship. If you like each other you will eventually move together. Tons of people meet this way.

Must not be super long distanced though ?

That lady was 2,000 plus miles away I'm not sure what's that in Km. She got bored with me and stopped talking to me.

Another one showed interest in me here , but she lives in Spain. She found s guy there and last I heard quite happy . I encouraged it, it was impossible we'd ever be able to be together. She's not active much anymore. I love them both and hope their both happy.

I'm quite capable of falling and love over the Internet but problem is I take it very serious and I'm super loyal.

Perhaps someone in my state but i dont know even then women on dating sites tend to want to meet up right away and lose interest if you don't. Even if they lived next door to me I'd still want to chat online for few weeks before meeting. Otherwise I'll be very very very shy and not say much during the date. I feel much mor comfortable in text based communication. I'm able to open up more and get to know and trust them then when we meet I already know them and come across as confident and social. Is that wierd and bad? My family seems to think so and I know I've lost bunch of girls on okcupid from not meeting up after 3 messages :/

Definitely not bad. I talked to my current bf for months before finally meeting him. We practically knew we wanted to be together before we even met

She'd probably have to move to me given my income and that I can't move to many states.

I haven't read anything else that anyone's said in this thread, but when you categorize people based on looks as in your OP, or when you make large assumptions about whole genders as in your OP, people will find that offensive.

I'm sure people fine me offensive here too. Whatever though. Gotta be yourself. You seem to have internalized what other people think of you far too strongly. You don't need to put up a wall against other people though, that's not going to work. You need to grow your certainty of yourself from yourself. And no, ultimately that's not going to find you a partner, but it will make the process of being rejected not horrible. Other people do not get to determine your worth.

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I think it depends on the person. If you're not comfy meeting up after 3 OKC messages, so be it. It's a personal preference.

I always wanted to meet up in person with an internet date pretty quickly (within first week of correspondence) -- as was looking for a boyfriend not a penpal. That's my preference but, hey, it's a big world with tons of people out there.

You felt safe meeting stranger after only a few messages?

I'm far too shy. I could meet up earlier but I likely won't talk much I'm super super super shy arose no strange women

Yes, I'm comfortable meeting internet dates after exchanging just a few messages -- in a public place, far from my home. Tend to keep the first few dates that way.

Chemistry matters and I can't tell if I click with the person without meeting them in person.

Been with my boyfriend, whom I've been with for over a year, on OKC!

I'm afraid most women won't meet up for a walk in a park, which is all I can afford and has to be near a bus route.

I won't be able to get rose anymore. Either as there's no bus buy the lower shop I liked.