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I have had my youngest two children put into care, lost my job and self esteem. I am late diagnosis aspie and been refused help from adult social care as they feel mental health should help and vice versa. I have poor verbal communication skills and sensory processing disorder as well as depression, anxiety disorders. Where do women like me get help from in the UK, I am so overwhelmed and unable to function but have been left with no support and a sense that having lost everything why bother to carry on. Children's s.w said people like me never improve so no point putting resources into it. I am currently spending a each day alone with my dog in my bedroom, taking large doses of sleeping tablets and drinking just so I can blot everything out. Any postive advice?

Hi, I can't imagine the depth of your despair. Do you have any sort of appointment to see any sort of Doctor? Please take it easy with the sleeping pills and drinking. I am sure your children would like to see their mother again. I also was an adult diagnosed ASD. I don't have any kids. How old are your children? Who are they staying with now? Are you allowed to visit them? I'm glad you have the dog. I have three of them. (((HUGS)))

They have been placed 200 mile away with my sister meaning i see them if she comes down, normally twice a year! I have no chance of going up there, as too much. No appointments, no follow ups, just me and my dog, who I will pass once I can find her a good home. Just given up, waiting to say happy birthday by text to son on Wednesday, packed my bags, cleaned, cleared and organise house. Just the awareness that there is no place for me in this world anymore is sad.

Wow, sorry to hear your kids are so far away. Don't give up. It may seem like there is no place in the world for you right now but things can change. At one point in my life, I basically spent a year and a half in bed, not healthy I know, but I was so depressed, and felt I had nothing to get out of bed for. But very suddenly circumstances changed for the better. You never know what tomorrow might bring. Just take it a day at a time. Are there and ASD support groups in your area?
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Hello, mouse. If you can't get any services through the autism route, get some services through substance abuse treatment or depression (mental health help). You haven't told us what led to job loss or the children being removed. Resolve to work on areas that interfere with the children living with you again. You also need to give up the booze (alcohol), which, as you know I'm sure, should never be mixed with sleeping pills.

I don't see the situation as so hopeless. Try to use the free time (no kids) on improving your health, such as getting a little exercise every day, cooking a meal, using the public library if there is one there, and so on. I'm not sure when your money will run out, but you may want to apply for public assistance just to pay your housing and food. You do need help, so investigate a little what these agencies may offer, and get your name on various waiting lists.

Good luck to you.