I don't know whats wrong with me

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I'm always overlooked. I've met lots of nice guys throughout my adult life, but even the ones who seem to.like me end up with someone else.

I don't know what about me is so unappealing. Maybe I look attractive, but upon closer association I'm just not normal enough.

No one has asked me out in about 8-10 years. I don't think anyone will ever ask me out again.

I'm so confused. I don't know what to do. I don't know what is so awful about me.

Hey Hurtloam Im sorry for how you are feeling, i have felt the same way... Its not easy and i dont have any answers im afraid as there could be a number of variables. I 'm not sure if you are on the spectrum or not? I can only see possible misunderstandings, whether its approach or even if you feel relatively relaxed.. As when i have the energy i have to constantly force a smile because apparently my resting face can seem somewhat intimidating! hehe But im just stabbing in the dark here and expressing what seems to me the most obvious as i dont know you or how you may be around people. As mentioned im sure it is likely a misunderstanding more than anything else! Dont give up!! Keep the hope flowing and keep swimming

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I doubt there's anything awful about you, my perspective is that society is awful.

May I ask when was the last time you asked a guy out? It's just as hard for us to show our feelings as it is for you.

I appreciate that people on the Internet can't say , "I can see this is probably putting people off, don't do that," because you don't know me, but I have no one in real life who I can talk to about this.

I just get told, "you just haven't met the right person yet," "you don't need someone, other people manage on their own", "you're not the only one",

But that doesn't tell me why I keep getting rejected. It's the same pattern over and over.

I understand this is not the best explanation:

But, in your case, I do believe there is a strong "luck of the draw" kind of element to your situation.

I know it's frustrating. But you have other aspects of your life where you are successful.

But why can't I do this thing that's so normal and easy for everyone else? It's supposed to be a natural part of being human.

I'm just so sick of getting hurt.

Want to go out with me?

Online dating isn't the answer for everyone Smudge.

Wanna know what ticks me off? It's when people like you go, "Will someone help me? Nobody will help me", someone offers their input, and you're like, "But I don't want to take the elevator, I'd rather climb the stairs". You don't even want to look at it, and you get pissed off at people like me for even trying to help you.

And it isn't just online dating, I'm sure you'd be closed off to other ideas too.

You can't say that just because I don't feel like one idea is compatible with who I am, that I am closed off to all ideas, that's very dramatic and not true.

Stop harassing me Smudge. We're just different people.

Would you like to PM with me? I'd like to help you as best as I can.