How do I convince my 8 year old sister to remain cute?

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I'm so upset that I can't find any immature male 20 year olds anywhere. If social workers have the right to make immature people mature, then I have the right to make people at risk of maturity to remain immature and cute. I'm begging you please to the only online autistic community that I know. Please lend me a hand to help me convince my 8 year old sister to remain cute. I beg you with all my heart!! !!

She is going to grow up and there is nothing you can do about that. Trying to control her behaviour is weird. Maybe you should talk to a therapist about this need to control people around you, and your inappropriate fixation with your sister's maturity level. This may sound callous if you are severely developmentally delayed and don't understand why people grow up, but this thread is getting creepy. Leave your sister alone.

If social workers can do something about immature people, then I definitely can do something about her.

You are not her social worker. You are her brother. It is not your job to control her life. If you want to stay friends with her, stop trying to control her. People don't want to be friends with someone who tries to make them do things they don't want to do.

You really need to stop fixating on this. Perhaps you should show this thread to your parents and talk to them about your fixation on your sister's behaviour and how unhealthy that is, so you can stop it. It's getting weird and making me uncomfortable.

I seriously hope this was intended to be tongue-in-cheek.

Social workers don't 'convince' people to grow up. People -freely- go to see people for help and they then freely take it or freely change, or they don't.

If neither one of these things describes you, then you were wronged.

I think you should just let your sister grow up the way she wants to. She'll be a different kind of cute in a few years. The kind of cute that girls start to become in their teens. You might find her cuter, then. This song describes what I'm talking about.

Your sister does not belong to you; she is not your servant or your slave, and she is not obligated to do whatever you wish. She is a unique individual with inherent rights to her own identity and has a right to choose her own behavior. It's natural for her preferences to change over the course of time, and nothing you do will stop the passage of time.

Just as you have chosen to behave in ways that you describe as immature, your sister has a right to determine her own behavior. If she doesn't want to rush to you and give you the same kind of hugs she did when she was three, then you are obligated to accept that, whether you like it or not. Trying to force her to touch you in ways that she does not like qualifies as abuse. If you were to continue to push, cajole, or otherwise try to force her to do things like that, she (or others) could actually charge you with illegal behavior. At the least, your relationship with her could be damaged far worse than what you've experienced with former friends.

When it comes to calling her nicknames, that remains your choice, but that sort of thing can be annoying to others and she may feel it's disrespectful.

Though it's common to have a close bond with siblings and to feel affection towards them, it isn't a requirement, and those feelings aren't always reciprocated. If you push her too far, she may find it very hard to "like you back," and I am among many who would understand her feelings very well.

I say all this as the youngest in my family, having lived with my two older brothers. If either of them had continued to treat me the way they did when we were all younger, I would resent the h_ll out of them.

Do I detect troll bait with this topic?

Trolls can be excellent teachers.

You can't expect someone to be a child forever. She's going to grow up and work on finding her place in life. Growing up doesn't always mean business casual and being a workaholic. Growing up is a mentality. Your sister has every right and reason to grow up and do the same thing.

It's like parents wanting their daughters to remain "Mommy and Daddy's little princesses forever" it can be detrimental to self esteem.

That's exactly what I was thinking when I wrote "I'm thinking of the T word."

Except the OP posted this in The Haven probably just because it would be protected from accusations. It's a VERY odd desire though.

Umm no...

And I'd suggest you knock this off before you irreversibly damage any positive relations you might have with you sister. No one wants to hang around someone who tries to control them or force them to be a certain way.

What's the T word?...troll, pretty sure you can just say troll its not a taboo.

I had hesitated to use the word "troll" because this is in The Haven, and everyone's supposed be nothing but super-sickly-sweet supportive in The Haven. That's all.

But fine then, troll troll troll, there. Happy?

Well I don't know about super-sickly-sweet...but the idea is to offer support, to people going through a rough time, but if you feel someone is trolling I see nothing wrong with pointing it out. Kind of a waste of support if the person is just trying to get a rise out of people.

I have a hard time believing the poster of this thread is for real, but if he is he's still talking about wanting to control his sister and trying to force her to fit a certain image he's created for her. I am not going to say 'oh it's ok to feel that way, everyone wants to exert total control over a sibling or family member.' That is a really disturbing and dangerous mindset to have...I don't think one should be sickly sweet about an issue like this, the O.P needs professional help if he's for real.