want 'truth'? we aspies are just terrible people

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We aspies are truly terrible, bigoted small minded people who have inverted narcissism issues and secretly feel were the cats pyjamas.

Wow. You "just found out I'm an aspie", and now you're speaking for all of us!

I think we are beautiful compared to NTs.

Our minds are far more interesting, our humour surreal at times and we all have that odd look we do with our eyes when concentrating.

We can't help being better than you, don't hate us for it,

I recognise that you are just venting but it seems like you are projecting a lot of your own self loathing onto others. Instead of owning up to the fact that you might personally be responsible for your own shortcomings, I suspect you feel more at ease blaming aspergers. Or perhaps it's more that you feel helpless, as if allegedly being a bad person is as intrinsic to your biology as autism.

In any case, I don't know many bad people that hate themselves for being bad people. Seems like you're just being hard on yourself.

Fixed it for you.

Also next time you decide to label all AS people as one group when we are incredibly diverse maybe you should stop staying inside all the time like you said in a previous post and go meet some other aspies to see that we really aren't as bad as you make out. Plenty of us out there are the complete opposite to what you described. There's enough evidence of that alone on this community website, we have some really beautiful minded, considerate and intelligent people here.

i can definitely see where you're coming from.

there been quite a few instamces, posts and characters alike where i've come across a brand of 'autistic chauvinism' that completely disregarded the massive diversity within both NT and 'aspie' camps. these posts reject the "nt's idea" of aspies as an inferior monolith while simultaneously smearing NTs as having inferior minds, interests or priorities.

i mean honestly, its one of this sites biggest stains and i roll my eyes every time i see it. you need to look at people as individuals. you can't preach aspies as individuals and then label NTs as some monolith. it doesn't work that way...AND VICE VERSA. it's one of the reasons i didn't exactly miss the site after school and work forced me to leave.

OP, i don't think you're wrong for noticing that attitude here, but i'd probably just ignore those individual posts...or people.

Sorry for putting it like that.. i did not mean to categorise everyone as being rude and terrible people. Just wrote a controversial header so you guys would click on it..I just wanted to find out if rudeness and aspergers go hand in hand.. maybe its something to do with impatience.. my dad and i both very much on the spectrum seem to say the most incredibly hurtful things.. at least i realise later, and apologise, he doesn't even get it..
I just meant to get some clarity on the following issue-
Do any of you have extreme impatience while dealing with NT's? I have a lot of tolerance trouble. I am not an insensitive person, however i find myself saying shocking insensitive things when people just don't 'see' what a certain decision or action of theirs would lead them. Normally i seem to see think faster and further than most people, (i don't say this in a hubristic way and often times what i see could be wrong too). But in that moment, the logic of what I'm thinking is so clear and streamlined that I'm amazed that others don't see it the way i do or are just being slow to comprehend). Then its like a switch, i get from 0 to 100 in the frustration scale and say the worst most insensitive thing possible. Not to be hurtful but more like, well, an observation. But it seems like a judgement to people. I hate myself for this. my dad who also has aspergers has extreme impatience and does not even seem to realise that what he says might possible be hurtful. I know its tough living with me. But I'm not a bad person and i really don't want to to cause hurt anymore. I know my brain works faster than most people (in terms of logic) but not necessarily better, (in terms of ground realities).
please help me, i don't want to destroy my relationships. I just sincerely hope my brain is not wired to be an unfeeling creature. Coz i know i can be more sensitive than most when it matters too. Its very confusing.
Practical tips would be much appreciated.

Last edited by whirlingdervish on 20 Dec 2016, 11:56 am, edited 1 time in total.

Everyone's different and one person with ASD will probably be different from another.

It probably all depends on your life experiences, age, education etc. just like it is with "NT's" (I hate the term NT btw)

I was diagnosed about 10 years ago and my daughter was diagnosed a couple of months ago. Although we do share a lot in common and we are close, we are still very different to each other.

I have a far higher tolerance of other people than she does but then she is far more sensible (for her age) than I was at that age.

Don't hate yourself...or try not to at least.

well, you baited me, and i bit. maybe clarify that in your OP.

decreased awareness or sensitivity towards cultural norms is one of the biggest common themes among lots of aspies, especially some who have not dedicated time to observing other people and learning their behavior in an attempt to fit in. you can be considered rude if you speak loudly in church with no bad intent, for example.

but what really sucks is if you're unable to articulate that you didn't mean to be rude, and he people label you as an as*hole.