Family makes fun of Aspergers/autism

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Like they literally do it in front of me? Why is everyone so awful?

Hi Sgnat

I am sorry that your family is treating you badly. Are you with them for the holiday? Is there a way that you can leave for a little bit?

Family can be extremely stressful.

I would dread this, and am very sorry you have to deal with it. Since being diagnosed so far my parents have been supportive, but the rest of my family have been utterly silent on the topic: as bad a gossip as my mother is I know they know and yet... nothing, which is discomforting.
Anyway, do you think you could confront your family about it somehow, if not verbally then maybe write a note and leave it in an obvious place just describing how much their actions genuinely upset you. Some may accuse people with autism as unfeeling but the same often goes for those not on the spectrum, it seems. They may not actually realise you are taking their mockery to heart.

Maybe they don't realize how awful it is? Maybe they do it because humour can "break the ice" and "dissolve tension" and it's their way of trying to engage you in conversation?

Or maybe they're as*holes and you shouldn't be upset by them, but rather, pitty them for having to go through life as such jerks to others.

Either way, do your best to not let it get you down. Also, if you haven't, communicate to them that it's inappropriate and highly offensive to you and you'd appreciate if they just stopped.

Have you told them that it hurts your feelings? If they still do it when they know it hurts you, you might want to look up signs of emotional abuse. Sorry, but even family can be abusers sometimes. If you talk to them about it, though, they might stop. Some people just use humor as a way to process things and don't realize that others might not feel the same way.

My family can be toooo much too, my cousin thinks she knows better than me & my grandmother is confusing, she can say one thing then the next time we talk on the phone, she can say another thing, probably memories loss.

I know what you mean. I told my brother of my diagnosis as I was taking him to an Indianapolis Colts game. He then spent the rest of the drive arguing with me why that cannot be the case. I ended up saying that I was going to listen to the Brown u edicated doctor over him (a high school dropout). I ended up explaining some of the symptoms and he did finally understand.

My dad was the same way. Luckily my mom was the exact opposite. She has always been very supportive!