Thinking about overdosing

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My older brother continues to torment me. He just announced his second marriage. He's always had relationships while I have continued to fail to establish any and stay alone for nearly ten years despite my best efforts. I just can't bear continuing to live with the pain of loneliness. I think I just need to overdose on my medicine and let death accept me.

No no no! Don't do that! Please call the hospital to get help or get in touch with someone you trust for support.

(My gut reaction is to tell your brother a heartfelt "f*ck off" when he's being a jerk, but that may not help your relationship improve.) There are a lot of people feeling lonely out there, including folks on this website, I'm sure. You're not alone in feeling lonely. Don't let other people's cruelty or insensitivity be the reason why we don't get to know you.

Both my parents have gotten remarried, I'm sure my younger brother will get married soon, and a lot of my cousins have had marriages for the last few years. I don't even date because women consider me gross for being shy and anxious. I am not an iron pumping alpha male and I am considered a loser because of that.

Suicide is the one choice you can't undo. I'm sorry you're feeling so awful. How can we help you right now?

Have you tried a crisis hotline or 1-800-273-8255? A calm voice, listening ear, and new perspective can help.

I wish someone would give me some proof that I don't have to become someone like my older brother to have a girlfriend.

What's your older brother like then?

Racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, alcoholic, and thinks anyone who isn't a Christian is "weird" or "gay".

Oh wow! Not everyone in the Bible belt who are in relationships are like that. How awful to date someone like that!

I see guys like my brother succeed more often than the opposite. It also feels like my shyness and anxiety make me considered innately unworthy of having a girlfriend since others tell me that is what's wrong with me.

Is there a way to become more distant from him? Some of the things that your brother is saying to you are really not true at all.

I've seen plenty of good people get relationships, and I've also known shy women. Are they unworthy in your eyes too? If not, then you can see how a shy man is still worthy. It's more difficult to get to know someone who is shy, but people get to know shy people every day.

He lives out of state. It's just that the way he treated me mentally scarred me.



You misunderstood me. I don't think shyness makes one innately unworthy of a relationship. It's just how the Bible Belt culture sees it.

It seems they really are truth be told

I out of here,

As for OP, coming from someone who literally just overdosed and tired to kill themselves, that is not the answer. Maybe you should try being comfortable alone before finding company or building relationships, that is my goal.

I get that told that often. I just hope it doesn't entail turning into someone like the general Bible Belt Joe.

How is he tourmenting you now?

The fact he's getting married again while I tried all sorts of things last year to get out of my rut only to run into dead ends.