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02 Jun 2017, 9:38 am

Gotta befriend yourself first, before you can befriend others. Self-acceptance and such, I know it's a steep climb and you'll have to go through all the shadowy stuff, but the reward is there. Hold on.



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02 Jun 2017, 12:43 pm

I don't understand what that means.



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02 Jun 2017, 3:44 pm

It can get rough when you feel ignored on WP. On the other hand, it's good to remember that you don't need to have everyone as your bestie. There will always be some people you have more in common with than others, and, as you said yourself, your capacity is limited.

It's really funny when I post; I either feel slightly upset about being ignored, or very frustrated about having to come up with an answer that makes sense, in a reasonable amount of time. Yet here is where I find answers that I can't find anywhere else, and people who understand.


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02 Jun 2017, 5:06 pm

fifasy wrote:
I don't understand what that means.


Ok, let me put it this way. We are complex beings, especially those with autism. I always had the problem that, whenever I met someone who was being nice to me, i'd sort of get attached to that person, which isn't healthy. Attachment is never healthy, even Yoda knew that. You have to learn to let go, is what he would say.
I've become my own best friend, got more self-respect. Simplicity, compassion, patience: i live according to these principles.



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02 Jun 2017, 7:20 pm

cheffe wrote:
fifasy wrote:
I don't understand what that means.


Ok, let me put it this way. We are complex beings, especially those with autism. I always had the problem that, whenever I met someone who was being nice to me, i'd sort of get attached to that person, which isn't healthy. Attachment is never healthy, even Yoda knew that. You have to learn to let go, is what he would say.
I've become my own best friend, got more self-respect. Simplicity, compassion, patience: i live according to these principles.


I like that. It's deep.



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03 Jun 2017, 5:32 am

I hope you're feeling better now than when you posted this, suffering is never good.



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03 Jun 2017, 7:03 am

fifasy wrote:
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Ok I'm honestly confused about this post. Is this post about how people in real life treat you like dirt or users on Wrong Planet? Because I don't know.


I feel people treat me like dirt everywhere. I like it here but it can be sad when people don't reply much to posts. Also when it gets quiet here and hardly anyone's posting I wonder if it's because I've posted too much. Am I the kind of person who puts people off using the site? Sometimes the forum is busy with loads of posters, other times it's quiet. I don't understand why people aren't consistent. Generally I'll post a regular amount. It can make me think there's something me people just don't like. But offline is worse. I've been to a few social situations recently where I was practically invisible. When I tried to get involved with other people because I couldn't tell jokes well I was more or less totally given the cold shoulder.

People not posting responses doesn't necessarily reflect on you, but also on them. They might have nothing to add to a given topic. Or they might be too socially anxious to reply anything. There might be hundreds of reasons why they don't reply... reasons that have nothing to do with you, or with their liking of you.

As for telling jokes, and all... you don't have to. :) It might sound like a cliché, but you just have to accept yourself for who you are, and find ways to communicate that are comfortable for you. If you force a personality on yourself that is not you, it will only make you feel worse. Trust me, I've been there. Besides, people are all different. Not everybody is a joker. :wink:



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03 Jun 2017, 7:30 pm

I totally suck at jokes.



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09 Jun 2017, 9:34 pm

I'm sick of normality everywhere. People make me feel like a freak. I went out drinking last night because I was just so BORED. I need to connect with other human beings.

And of course everyone around when I go to the bars is normal, in a couple, or with friends, more muscular than me, happier than me, and I look like a lonely fool, which I am.

Why can't there be people with motor neurone disease at the bars, or some other people who find life more difficult, to remind me I'm not the only who who's alone, and even if other people there are suffering but invisibly, I can't notice it, so I feel all alone.



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17 Jun 2017, 5:27 pm

fifasy wrote:
I'm sick of normality everywhere. People make me feel like a freak.

And of course everyone around when I go to the bars is normal, in a couple, or with friends, more muscular than me, happier than me, and I look like a lonely fool, which I am.



Normality is boring or neutrally well spent off the backs of others when they're not out watching themselves or their purse strings. Too many things can lead to unhappiness, such as too much of a good thing, or things that lead to bad things. You can lose yourself and place trust in someone who is able to abuse it and use it to their own formula on how to date and please women. You can track the timing but you aren't always sure how it'll all pan out.



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17 Jun 2017, 5:46 pm

You maybe by yourself but you are definitely not alone. I've gotten quite a bit of social rejection myself and still do til this day. For instance there was a girl at work that I had a crush on. We hung out at the movies but only because she was friends with one of my own along with her sister that came along too. She gave me her number after I asked and then a month after that incident I decided to muster up the courage to chat with her one on one via text message. At the end of the conversation I asked what she would be doing this weekend and then I got rejected and was only seen by her as a friend. Probably not the best way to approach a girl but I've been out of the dating scene for about a year.