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Eternallyfading
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26 Dec 2017, 2:52 am

There's probably alot of people on the spectrum who eventually learned to love themselves but i currently don't at the moment nor i understand the idea of "learning to love" anything. That's like saying if you had a legit reason that you didn't like a family member but everyone told you to love them anyway.....whatever. With me, i don't see any reason to love myself, i don't think anyone else does. I just feel tolerated at the most..



MariaTheFictionkin
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26 Dec 2017, 3:31 am

With the kind of posts that I see here... I feel like a lot of people don't love themselves... >_> There is a huge bulk of low self-esteem...

I guess what helped me see a reason to have some sort of love for myself is the people in my life who find my qualities of which I disliked to be something amazing. This helped me to see that these things about me have a likable aspect to them, despite how morally wrong or disgusting most people found them. I also try to treat myself as my own best friend. Typically I wouldn't hate someone who is like me in another body so with that in mind, I use that as a coping mechanism when I get into my... moods. These are the only thing I can think of... so...I don't know if it'll help you..

I don't know if you wanted....advice...so I'm sorry if I crossed the boundary...


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Eternallyfading
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26 Dec 2017, 4:15 am

MariaTheFictionkin wrote:
With the kind of posts that I see here... I feel like a lot of people don't love themselves... >_> There is a huge bulk of low self-esteem...

I guess what helped me see a reason to have some sort of love for myself is the people in my life who find my qualities of which I disliked to be something amazing. This helped me to see that these things about me have a likable aspect to them, despite how morally wrong or disgusting most people found them. I also try to treat myself as my own best friend. Typically I wouldn't hate someone who is like me in another body so with that in mind, I use that as a coping mechanism when I get into my... moods. These are the only thing I can think of... so...I don't know if it'll help you..

I don't know if you wanted....advice...so I'm sorry if I crossed the boundary...


you're okay. It is what i wanted. Im not the best at explaining myself but im trying to



The_BBgun_Adventurer
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28 Dec 2017, 3:12 am

I want to ask
How would you define "loving yourself?"



Eternallyfading
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28 Dec 2017, 3:35 am

The_BBgun_Adventurer wrote:
I want to ask
How would you define "loving yourself?"




Well for one i struggle with not being able to be alone and happy. I dont see any positives about myself at all. I feel like i burden everyone and i have these constant scenarios pop up in my head that everyone i care about will abandon me for one reason or another. Like how some people say "Im my own best friend". Because they can be alone with themselves and not feel miserable. I just want the ability to be with my own thoughts without feeling sad.