Is this a burnout?

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Hi there I am a 30 year old, undiagnosed female. I work as a personal trainer because training and fitness is one of my passions and this is the first job where i am around and have to talk to people all day in gym. After over a year of not being able to keep up with the corporate demands, social demands and uniform requirement..im exhausted. I feel like my social skills, memory, executive functioning is getting worse. When clients or anyone tell me good or bad news I don't know how to react the right way naturally with facial expression, tone...etc. All that has always been a struggle my whole life. But now its getting worse.

What is going on?

Along with that its been bothering me more lately that its so hard to connect with people. I just feel different from everyone around me. I have one person im close to but there is a strain between us at the moment. I just feel so alone.

Ive been having a lot of overwhelming moments and i end up having a meltdown for my brain just shuts down, i hurt myself or become unproductive. There are other things also but I want to know does this sound like a aspie burnout? What does a burnout feel for you? Im so tired and want to breathe and feel in control but I cant just quit.

Whenever I put a lot of my time and energy into some activity or project - and I have a particularly high level of intensity when I work on something - I reach a point where I completely stop.

I just stop. I become disgusted by the idea of continuing. I could not physically force myself to continue even if I wanted to. The energy just disappears.

I abandon it. I sever communication with other people involved. I isolate myself for the next several months until some other interest comes along ..

First, starry, I want to congratulate you on sticking with the job for a year. That is a huge accomplishment, and you should feel proud of it.

It could be you are having a burnout, or maybe something else is going on. I would first ask your primary care doctor for a check-up. Also ask for a referral to a mental health therapist. Talking about these things might be uncomfortable, but it could also vent some things that are building up and stressing you. It could also give you some ideas of how to deal with things people tell you.

Finally, are you taking vacations and an occasional day off? If not, after a year, you should feel entitled to ask for these. Have you ever heard the term "mental health day"? Even highly functioning people need to do this now and then.

This is my first ever post on a forum ever - my account is all of 2 minutes old and this in the first thread I opened. I only started sorting out that i have Asperger's like 4 months ago, and my doctor confrimed it only a month or so ago. I read this response and started crying! I thought that that was just me! I didn't know that that was a burn out or that it could be helped - I thought I was just a quitter.
Thank you.

Welcome to your first ever forum