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10 Mar 2019, 2:11 pm

Download the betterhelp app n see if getying an online therapist (can call n video chat sessions to if wanted) will help


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10 Mar 2019, 2:19 pm

Marknis wrote:
serpentari wrote:
i just am a terrible bore, and tend to correct misunderstandings) even if they are habitual and intentional ^^
as to energy, my energy pool happens to go up and down. as in most ppl, ukno. still, i really should save it, sooo
ciao)


No, you are just a very judgmental and inconsistent person, especially when you claimed I've never tried to give anyone here support and you can't stand by your words.

I'm also a very judgmental and inconsistent person, but I try not to comment except when I can contribute something positive. I wish you wouldn't lash out at serpentari, though, who means well but is culturally very different from us Americans, being from Russia. And we all have different strengths and weaknesses here. Serpentari was trying to be kind to sly, which I can appreciate even if you cannot.


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11 Mar 2019, 11:49 am

BeaArthur wrote:
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i just am a terrible bore, and tend to correct misunderstandings) even if they are habitual and intentional ^^
as to energy, my energy pool happens to go up and down. as in most ppl, ukno. still, i really should save it, sooo
ciao)


No, you are just a very judgmental and inconsistent person, especially when you claimed I've never tried to give anyone here support and you can't stand by your words.

I'm also a very judgmental and inconsistent person, but I try not to comment except when I can contribute something positive. I wish you wouldn't lash out at serpentari, though, who means well but is culturally very different from us Americans, being from Russia. And we all have different strengths and weaknesses here. Serpentari was trying to be kind to sly, which I can appreciate even if you cannot.


Did you forget what she said to me back on the very first page of this thread? She herself said she was being purposefully rude to me. That isn't "meaning well" but antagonistic. She also wrongfully assumed I viewed The Grand Inquisitor as a detractor.

blooiejagwa wrote:
Download the betterhelp app n see if getying an online therapist (can call n video chat sessions to if wanted) will help


Well, I already have a therapist but I can't see her on a weekly basis like I used to.



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11 Mar 2019, 12:26 pm

I think I should join your detractors.
Then maybe you would start paying attention to what I write :P


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11 Mar 2019, 12:30 pm

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Did you forget what she said to me back on the very first page of this thread? She herself said she was being purposefully rude to me. That isn't "meaning well" but antagonistic. She also wrongfully assumed I viewed The Grand Inquisitor as a detractor.

I certainly did forget it - if I even knew it in the first place. I do not have your exaggerated ability to carry a grudge, nor do I scrutinize long threads like this one for injustice-collecting purposes. I do not evaluate whether everyone's assumptions are right or wrong, and then remember it.

You have a type of thought disorder, as others have pointed out before, that colors your perception of reality in a negative and usually hostile direction. You also have a tendency toward paranoia - nobody else in all of WP, in my experience, talks about their "detractors."

I can wish you well without engaging in your particular brand of "crazy."


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11 Mar 2019, 12:31 pm

magz wrote:
I think I should join your detractors.
Then maybe you would start paying attention to what I write :P



Ohhhh yikes :lol:
I just completed a phone session with betterhelp u get a week free trial u shd sign up marknis
The man is in America so it wd not even be long distance call fr u
Can also video chat or type

There is an App to download and BOom! Simple n dont need to leave the house
I really thinkit wd work well
Pretend a detractor made it ;) just teasing


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11 Mar 2019, 12:54 pm

magz wrote:
I think I should join your detractors.
Then maybe you would start paying attention to what I write :P


or maybe u should stop writing, because he wont pay attention anyways)
he will only see parts of ur post, that can be used to hate u)
which is why i really try to gtfo this thread, but sadly, my tendency for accuracy gets the better of me xD


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11 Mar 2019, 1:25 pm

serpentari wrote:
see, markie, this is ur problem. u think u are being trolled, while none of the kind was intended. i just saw sly's sad post, and i replied to him. end chapter. and while u are hating ppl and think they wish u bad just because they are not stroking ur ego on a daily basis, u will be constantly stressed. guardian demon, out_)
^^TFTW^^



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11 Mar 2019, 1:58 pm

I don’t know why people don’t want you to have a relationship. Maybe they are being over protective and don’t want you to be hurt if it doesn’t work. I say do what you want, do what you think will make you happy. It might work out, or it might not, but do what YOU want. Time will tell and then cross that bridge when you get there.



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11 Mar 2019, 2:37 pm

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I don’t know why people don’t want you to have a relationship...
There isn't anyone on this website like that, as far as I know. There are people who suggest that he work on self-improvement to become more attractive, there are people who point out that it may likely be his attitude that drives others away, and there are people who doubt that he will ever have a relationship unless he takes more control of his life, but I don't recall reading any post where someone specifically states that they don't want him to have a relationship.



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11 Mar 2019, 4:00 pm

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I don’t know why people don’t want you to have a relationship...
There isn't anyone on this website like that, as far as I know. There are people who suggest that he work on self-improvement to become more attractive, there are people who point out that it may likely be his attitude that drives others away, and there are people who doubt that he will ever have a relationship unless he takes more control of his life, but I don't recall reading any post where someone specifically states that they don't want him to have a relationship.


No, no one has ever said they did not want him to have a relationship. When someone suggests he focus on things like his living situation, his work situation, etc., he takes that to mean he should give up on dating. What he doesn't seem to realize is that working on his living situation, his work situation, etc., IS working on dating, because it's making one more attractive to the opposite sex.


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11 Mar 2019, 4:48 pm

Luhluhluh wrote:
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I don’t know why people don’t want you to have a relationship...
There isn't anyone on this website like that, as far as I know. There are people who suggest that he work on self-improvement to become more attractive, there are people who point out that it may likely be his attitude that drives others away, and there are people who doubt that he will ever have a relationship unless he takes more control of his life, but I don't recall reading any post where someone specifically states that they don't want him to have a relationship.


No, no one has ever said they did not want him to have a relationship. When someone suggests he focus on things like his living situation, his work situation, etc., he takes that to mean he should give up on dating. What he doesn't seem to realize is that working on his living situation, his work situation, etc., IS working on dating, because it's making one more attractive to the opposite sex.


I've actually tried to put it aside and even told some people but their responses were "You'll run out of time!" and couples always pass me by which reminds me of my singlehood. I've even lost some female friends because they got into relationships and their boyfriends disallowed them from having male friends. I've also read horror stories of men focusing on things outside of dating but their dating situation never changed. One of the men whose e-book I read is 58 and his best efforts never paid off. He feels like all he has to look forward to is death.



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11 Mar 2019, 5:24 pm

Marknis wrote:
Luhluhluh wrote:
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Danger45 wrote:
I don’t know why people don’t want you to have a relationship...
There isn't anyone on this website like that, as far as I know. There are people who suggest that he work on self-improvement to become more attractive, there are people who point out that it may likely be his attitude that drives others away, and there are people who doubt that he will ever have a relationship unless he takes more control of his life, but I don't recall reading any post where someone specifically states that they don't want him to have a relationship.


No, no one has ever said they did not want him to have a relationship. When someone suggests he focus on things like his living situation, his work situation, etc., he takes that to mean he should give up on dating. What he doesn't seem to realize is that working on his living situation, his work situation, etc., IS working on dating, because it's making one more attractive to the opposite sex.


I've actually tried to put it aside and even told some people but their responses were "You'll run out of time!" and couples always pass me by which reminds me of my singlehood. I've even lost some female friends because they got into relationships and their boyfriends disallowed them from having male friends. I've also read horror stories of men focusing on things outside of dating but their dating situation never changed. One of the men whose e-book I read is 58 and his best efforts never paid off. He feels like all he has to look forward to is death.


You spend way too much time being concerned about what other people say and what other people think, and honestly, I seriously doubt that people actually say these actual words to you; instead they've said something that you've interpreted it incorrectly, as is evidenced by your title of this post. No one has ever said they did not want you to be in a relationship.


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11 Mar 2019, 5:53 pm

Luhluhluh wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Luhluhluh wrote:
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Danger45 wrote:
I don’t know why people don’t want you to have a relationship...
There isn't anyone on this website like that, as far as I know. There are people who suggest that he work on self-improvement to become more attractive, there are people who point out that it may likely be his attitude that drives others away, and there are people who doubt that he will ever have a relationship unless he takes more control of his life, but I don't recall reading any post where someone specifically states that they don't want him to have a relationship.


No, no one has ever said they did not want him to have a relationship. When someone suggests he focus on things like his living situation, his work situation, etc., he takes that to mean he should give up on dating. What he doesn't seem to realize is that working on his living situation, his work situation, etc., IS working on dating, because it's making one more attractive to the opposite sex.


I've actually tried to put it aside and even told some people but their responses were "You'll run out of time!" and couples always pass me by which reminds me of my singlehood. I've even lost some female friends because they got into relationships and their boyfriends disallowed them from having male friends. I've also read horror stories of men focusing on things outside of dating but their dating situation never changed. One of the men whose e-book I read is 58 and his best efforts never paid off. He feels like all he has to look forward to is death.


You spend way too much time being concerned about what other people say and what other people think, and honestly, I seriously doubt that people actually say these actual words to you; instead they've said something that you've interpreted it incorrectly, as is evidenced by your title of this post. No one has ever said they did not want you to be in a relationship.


What am I supposed to think when I am told "You'll run out of time!", "Don't work on it for too long!", "You don't need a girlfriend!", "You need to accept that there is a small chance you'll never have a partner.", and "Yes. Give up." (Told to me by forum member Closet_Genious)?

My mother and older cousin have also told me "You don't need a girlfriend." and my mother actually pressured me to get a vasectomy because she was paranoid I would have sex in college and straight out told me I wouldn't be a good father.



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11 Mar 2019, 6:00 pm

You have such a good memory fr negative comments, right down to remembering the usernames of ppl including the underscore!

Why cant u use that brainpower and memory to remember the encouragement
And even more
Remember good advice

eG
Use it to get a therapist online as i advised!! Lol :lol:


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