Old man stared at me

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Now its certain that there is something weird about me. Today when walking on the road an old man looked at me for some time and he looked at my eyes.

Im tired of this. This happens to me by every kind of person in some times. Whats wrong with me?

This happens to me too. All kinds of people, and you're right, they do seem to stare at the eyes or be looking for eye contact. I wear sunglasses a lot and they still go for the eyes even then.

I can't offer much of a suggestion as to why, but you're not alone.

Perhaps he likes young guys and thought you're attractive? Just a possibility, as opposed to thinking you were weird in some way. I was stared at thus by several elderly men when younger, at the gym and while walking along the road.

One or two women have accused me of staring at them in the past - one of them knew we had been placed in her company from a course for disabled people so she had this prejudiced idea in her mind (despite all the quotes from The Secret on her wall, she allowed it to get to her).

I've had this in the past. I assumed I must be famous!

Maybe he saw something in you that he could identify with.

I get the same, but with women. Guys don't often look at me unless they are attracted to me, but most women will only look at me to judge. It's usually women between the ages of about 21 to about 40, although sometimes older women look at me. Teenagers don't tend to look.

Before anyone says ''you must be looking at them to notice they're looking at you'', I actually avoid eye contact with strangers in the street, but I can still sense if someone is staring, also I can see in my periphery. I think some of the time it is my imagination, but most of the time they really are staring. I can just see it even if I am looking straight ahead. That's even more disturbing because why would someone want to try and stare at someone who isn't looking at them? Eye contact should be a mutual thing, and if somebody is looking straight ahead and not at you, then that should mean ''I want to be left alone''.

Most Aspies here say that people only stare at you because you look like a potential murderer.
I think that is the stupidest thing to say, because girls like me don't look like murderers. If I looked like a murderer than why do people often stand right in my personal space with their kids and even let their kids run freely around me? Surely if I looked like a dangerous threat people wouldn't be letting their kids near me. No, I KNOW I don't look anywhere near a threat. Quite the opposite actually.
I figured people stare more if I am looking tired. God knows why. The rules of being in public places are extremely precise, and they are more harder to follow than social interaction with your friends or colleagues, in my experience.

Here's a few of the stubborn rules you must follow if you want to be in public places but don't want people to stare at you:-

-Don't look tired, always look refreshed, because people don't think about what could be going on in your life, all they care about is how you appear on the outside because they are ignorant and selfish

-Don't show any emotion if you are on your own. Look cool, chilled and confident. You're expected to become a robot when on your own in public

-Don't mutter a word to yourself. People will immediately consider you a ''maniac''

-If it's windy, try not to have your hair being blown about. This may be impossible if you don't wish to wear a hat, but people will feel the need to stare if your hair is looking dishevelled from the wind. People should expect others to have messy hair on a windy day, but they don't

-Don't wear shorts if it's raining. Rainwater is good for your skin, but even if it's a hot day you MUST avoid wearing shorts if it is raining. Also do not wear sunglasses in the winter. The winter sun can be as bright as the summer sun, but people are so dense that they only think the sun comes out in the summer or that sunglasses are only suitable when it's hot

-Be normal. You MUST be normal, no matter what. The only time you can get away with not being normal is if you are in a wheelchair. Otherwise, be normal

-Always remember that people don't mind their own business. If you are breaking any of the above rules, no matter what personal circumstances that may oblige you to break the rules, people will not tolerate it and they don't give two f***s about how you might be feeling on the inside, you just have to look the same as everybody else on the outside.That's all people care about

I hope this helps you to get along in this messed up world.

I stood staring (kind of) at an old, not exactly attractive, Eastern European woman in Waterstones yesterday, but it wasn't because of those things, but because I found her manner, her speech and her style of dress interesting.

Im tired of trying to be normal. Whatever i do, i take negativr attention and be uncomfortable in public

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People stare for all kind of reasons and sometimes they don't even look at you, but through you.

Don't assume negative thoughts on his part, maybe you just reminded him of someone.

Or maybe THE OLD MAN was the cuckoo one......

They look at me like im unknown creature or alien

You could be misinterpreting the way they're looking at you.

People stare at me sometimes, but sometimes I'm also guilty of accidentally staring at people too. Also I'm so bad with facial recognition that it could be that someone is staring at me because they know me and I don't realize it.

I doubt there's anything wrong with you. There's plenty of reasons people will stare. Sometimes they aren't even staring at you. I used to hate taking the bus when it was full after classes.

People will stare at you because you look interesting to them in some way. Maybe you're attractive, maybe you have an interesting nose. Maybe there's a few hairs out of place and they're a little ocd. Maybe you remind them of someone they know. Maybe you remind them of themselves. Point is, there's a multitude of reasons people stare. I used to accidentally find myself staring at people a little too hard. I like drawing faces, so I tend to look at people for inspiration, even though I detest eye contact...

Occasionally you will run into the judgmental types, but they are more few and far between. There's two ways to deal with those types, I usually just try to ignore them. My sister's technique to getting these types to stop staring is to stare back. . Works almost every time. (I'm not brave enough for that one, personally.)