02 Sep 2019, 8:58 pm
ltcvnzl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
ltcvnzl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
I’m sooooooo lonely 
hugs
is your grandma better?
No she passed last Sunday, so dealing with that too
I'm sorry. My grandma died a few years ago and it was very hard for me. I loved her. I hope she had a happy life and didn't suffered. Best wishes for you.
She was liked and loved by so many people. Should been me instead.
She missed her husband who died when I was 1. She never dated anyone again.
Hopefully heaven exists and she’s with him now and the girls she lost.
Wwre you still wanting to help me?
02 Sep 2019, 9:35 pm
sly279 wrote:
ltcvnzl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
ltcvnzl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
I’m sooooooo lonely
hugs
is your grandma better?
No she passed last Sunday, so dealing with that too
I'm sorry. My grandma died a few years ago and it was very hard for me. I loved her. I hope she had a happy life and didn't suffered. Best wishes for you.
She was liked and loved by so many people. Should been me instead.
She missed her husband who died when I was 1. She never dated anyone again.
Hopefully heaven exists and she’s with him now and the girls she lost.
Wwre you still wanting to help me?
It shouldn't be you, don't say that. You still have many years to be loved by people and build a better life for yourself. Enjoy that, it's the only thing you can do.
I can try to help, I'm unsure if I have good advice because I'm a failure at dating too but I'm still a girl.
03 Sep 2019, 9:13 pm
03 Sep 2019, 9:18 pm
I'm so sorry, sly. Please consider yourself hugged.
03 Sep 2019, 10:42 pm
ltcvnzl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
ltcvnzl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
ltcvnzl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
I’m sooooooo lonely
hugs
is your grandma better?
No she passed last Sunday, so dealing with that too
I'm sorry. My grandma died a few years ago and it was very hard for me. I loved her. I hope she had a happy life and didn't suffered. Best wishes for you.
She was liked and loved by so many people. Should been me instead.
She missed her husband who died when I was 1. She never dated anyone again.
Hopefully heaven exists and she’s with him now and the girls she lost.
Wwre you still wanting to help me?
It shouldn't be you, don't say that. You still have many years to be loved by people and build a better life for yourself. Enjoy that, it's the only thing you can do.
I can try to help, I'm unsure if I have good advice because I'm a failure at dating too but I'm still a girl.
Bet the best and fun years are gone. I’ll neber have them. And it doesn’t seem I’ll ever have a gf and if I did she wouldn’t like me for long cause I’m wanting a fun relationship that everyone had in their 20s.
I’ll prob be dead in year or so anyways, so it should have been me instead.
I have no friends , no gf, no hope of either. I’m alone playing games and that’s not enough, every day I did little more inside and i dont know how much longer I can take it. No one I know will help me.
Here’s my pof profile
https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=3182455
Well not I guess you have to be signed in to see it now same with OkCupid.
I’m so ugly
I’d get professional picture but it’d be wast of money since I’m also poor and worthless.
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04 Sep 2019, 2:06 am
04 Sep 2019, 2:28 am
sly279 wrote:
Bet the best and fun years are gone. I’ll neber have them. And it doesn’t seem I’ll ever have a gf and if I did she wouldn’t like me for long cause I’m wanting a fun relationship that everyone had in their 20s.
I’ll prob be dead in year or so anyways, so it should have been me instead.
I have no friends , no gf, no hope of either. I’m alone playing games and that’s not enough, every day I did little more inside and i dont know how much longer I can take it. No one I know will help me.
Here’s my pof profile
Well not I guess you have to be signed in to see it now same with OkCupid.
I’m so ugly I’d get professional picture but it’d be wast of money since I’m also poor and worthless.
I’ll prob be dead in year or so anyways, so it should have been me instead.
I have no friends , no gf, no hope of either. I’m alone playing games and that’s not enough, every day I did little more inside and i dont know how much longer I can take it. No one I know will help me.
Here’s my pof profile
Well not I guess you have to be signed in to see it now same with OkCupid.
I’m so ugly
I’d get professional picture but it’d be wast of money since I’m also poor and worthless.Some people are late bloomers, and it's OK. Everyone's life is different and expect have things that will be meaningful for you, not something you believe everyone should achieve at some milestone.
What kind of fun relationship you would like? Obviously, some stuff need to be adjusted because you aren't 20 but it doesn't mean your relationship will be boring.
I can understand this feeling because I suffer thinking I had years of my life wasted. I'm 26, I had only one short relationship... and I feel time is so harsh with woman, I don't know. Somehow, I still believe I'll be OK and I think you will too.
Is there a text you wrote or it's just the pictures and interests? I have an OKC profile but not a POF.
I don't think you're ugly. Definitely not a model, but I wouldn't call you ugly. However, you look uncomfortable in your photos. I think this can be a bit off putting. I'm not sure about professional pictures, but maybe friends helping with them? If it's too staged as in professional photography, I think it can also not be so good. Just maybe try a more neutral/relaxed expression?
You're not worthless. Your value isn't measured by being poor or having stuff or having success in dating.
04 Sep 2019, 5:23 am
Thinking of trying few reddit dating things, but from looks is mostly men with no reply’s
04 Sep 2019, 6:01 am
04 Sep 2019, 6:28 am
I think you look nice, sly, but yes, very uncomfortable--self-conscious, maybe--in the pictures. I agree that someone you trust might be able to help.
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And it doesn’t seem I’ll ever have a gf and if I did she wouldn’t like me for long cause I’m wanting a fun relationship that everyone had in their 20s.
I understand what you mean about having missed opportunities, but please know that a lot of young relationships are total crap. Some people get into them because it's what's "supposed" to be done, and then go along with the whole plan; getting married, making babies, and then....end up realizing they rushed into something with someone they really shouldn't have, but they're stuck.
My point is not that every relationship started young is a bad one, and not that having bad relationships when you're young can't be an interesting (!) experience, but that relationships aren't always what they seem to be on the surface--even for NTs who appear to be happy on the outside. Besides that, some of the strongest, happiest marriages I know started later in life.
Please be kind to yourself, especially in this moment, when you're in pain.
04 Sep 2019, 6:37 am
KimD wrote:
I think you look nice, sly, but yes, very uncomfortable--self-conscious, maybe--in the pictures. I agree that someone you trust might be able to help.
I understand what you mean about having missed opportunities, but please know that a lot of young relationships are total crap. Some people get into them because it's what's "supposed" to be done, and then go along with the whole plan; getting married, making babies, and then....end up realizing they rushed into something with someone they really shouldn't have, but they're stuck.
My point is not that every relationship started young is a bad one, and not that having bad relationships when you're young can't be an interesting (!) experience, but that relationships aren't always what they seem to be on the surface--even for NTs who appear to be happy on the outside. Besides that, some of the strongest, happiest marriages I know started later in life.
Please be kind to yourself, especially in this moment, when you're in pain.
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And it doesn’t seem I’ll ever have a gf and if I did she wouldn’t like me for long cause I’m wanting a fun relationship that everyone had in their 20s.
I understand what you mean about having missed opportunities, but please know that a lot of young relationships are total crap. Some people get into them because it's what's "supposed" to be done, and then go along with the whole plan; getting married, making babies, and then....end up realizing they rushed into something with someone they really shouldn't have, but they're stuck.
My point is not that every relationship started young is a bad one, and not that having bad relationships when you're young can't be an interesting (!) experience, but that relationships aren't always what they seem to be on the surface--even for NTs who appear to be happy on the outside. Besides that, some of the strongest, happiest marriages I know started later in life.
Please be kind to yourself, especially in this moment, when you're in pain.
What I mean is naive, never experienced it, spontaneous, playful and lots of sex relationship that most people had when in their teens or 20s and by 30s and alter don’t want. They want to settle down, be serious, they had fun in their 20s. But here’s me never having had that I don’t want to be serious or settle down. I’ve never experienced anything, which will just annoy Mose women in their 30s. Most of them have kids already from their fun relationships in past. They have to think of their kids 24/7 don’t have time for anything else, kids always come first.
Just nit compatible with me cause I still want that fun relationship they already had and don’t want anymore.
See I don’t want to be even thinking of marriage. And that’s all women my age wanr now. They already has the fun relationships I want.
Most say looking for a guy to marry, like woah way to fast. I just want to date and have a relationship even if it only last ew months if it goes thwt eventually ok but I just want to have fun with just me and a gf, no marriage no kids. Jusr two people hanging out, cuddling, doin things spontaneous
Not that they want me anyways except some women who itch multiple kids, I’m not marriage meterial and due to my disability I can’t ever get married or live together:(
04 Sep 2019, 6:46 am
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04 Sep 2019, 11:50 am
sly279 wrote:
Here’s my pof profile
https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=3182455
Well not I guess you have to be signed in to see it now same with OkCupid.
I’m so ugly I’d get professional picture but it’d be wast of money since I’m also poor and worthless.
https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=3182455
Well not I guess you have to be signed in to see it now same with OkCupid.
I’m so ugly
I’d get professional picture but it’d be wast of money since I’m also poor and worthless.Sorry to hear about your grandma
You don't look bad at all in your profile pics FWIWHere is my POF profile if anyone would like to provide some feedback https://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?pr ... 5708&api=1
04 Sep 2019, 12:26 pm
