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But what really gets to me, which I alluded to earlier, was that this thing was allowed to become a book, that these quotes are not just acceptable among random people but also promoted by the people who are supposed to be supporting autistics. It's inflammatory language... she's a... hater? ableist? There's really no word that captures how awful this woman is, nor a word for what she is doing.

And how the heck is it that a person who doesn't say much is capable of ruining an entire dinner party, especially if any other person at the dinner party were remotely like their hostess, because I can easily see a woman like that insulting someone intentionally. Oh wait, she did, right before my eyes.

But no, she didn't. It's okay to say horrible things about people with ASD, because it's a medical condition, and they need to be fixed, and how else are they supposed to know how horrible they are unless people tell them? [Sarcasm]

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To the awful woman whose name I don't remember and I don't want to reach over to look at the book and find out, it turns out that you are the problem. You have a serious communication disorder. You don't know how to be civil, for starters. Also, you practically plagiarize. You contradict yourself. You have an arrogance about you that can only be described as wildly delusional. You don't know how to read your degree (I'm pretty sure... let me know if diagnosis is within her scope of practice, Canadians). If I had been able to get past page 30, I imagine I would have been able to find some more of your deficiencies and include them in the write-up of my diagnosis of your severe communication disorder, which I can diagnose with as much if not more authority than you have used to diagnose people with ASD. Oh, also, you quoted what your daughter wrote in her journal in high school, which was that Pride and Prejudice is mostly dialogue, when you don't actually have to read English to look at my copy and see that it's not! You only have to know what quotes are and see that there are more pages without them than there are pages with them, therefore making it not mostly dialogue. Therefore, your daughter should also be tested--these sorts of communication disorders are genetic, and she is showing signs. And, of course, this in your case demonstrates that you are also hallucinating quotation marks where they do not exist. Why is this okay? How is this okay? How is it that stupid people with no authority become the arbiters of what is to be accepted and what is to be rejected? They do it as kids, and then they do it as teenagers, and then they do it as adults, and everybody lets them. I guess Jessica Kingsley and Tony Attwood wanted to get a seat at the table of one of this woman's dinner parties so they could study all the autistics who would show up and ruin it.


How does it do for a rant? Disorganized enough? Angry enough? It's my first rant, and I'm hoping it's a good one. For the first time (and I have a thread about obsessing over editing posts), I'm just going to post--submit not preview, because if I were to edit it, it wouldn't be an authentic rant.

And since I'm authentically angry, I'm going for an authentic rant.

Hello:

If I hadn't spent a good three hours on the above rant, I would not have bothered to post it given my difficulties, and if I had realized before I posted the first part that this stupid thing wouldn't let me post a second part of equal length for reasons beyond my understanding, I also would not have bothered to post it.

If you are not too annoyed with me to read about my anger, then the instructions aren't terribly complicated. Begin with the first of my now six posts that appear in a row. They are at least written in order. I did the best I could, and I did spend 20 minutes (as you can see by the time stamp) trying to make it so that I only had two posts. It just didn't work out.

anybody who is not angry, just isn't paying attention.

Top notch! You're booked - is once a week OK for you?


It's getting light and I still haven't crawled into bed, so I must resist that temptation right now - hence no more detailed comment. Obsessing over editing posts about obsessing over editing posts sounds like a grand project, I may have to pay a visit.

That was an epic rant! I hear you, and despise hypocrisy as well. You have to wonder what motivates someone to write an entire book on not letting autistics ruin your dinner party. Sounds a bit control freakish to me.

mau_tie,

This would make a great book on its own-a rebuttal piece to Attwood and Kingsley.

I feel like i'm hyperventilating because of the public speaking type class today. I hate this so much. And i'll be forced to do it for two more days. I bet everyone there would just see me as someone who shouldn't be there and just sneer at me. I hate this. I can't even study for tomorrow bc of anxiety. I can't understand what i read.

It's a conflicting life being a mod. It's no wonder that mods burn out here.

When you are a mod you are privy to a lot of private information about members - what they report and why , what they complain about , what they have been reprimanded for etc etc . You can build quite an accurate profile of a member with this information.

My rant is about the hypocrisy that some members post hoping that other members don't know there true feelings.

Maybe my rant is because I would love to call a few members out on their BS - but can't.

Maybe I'll keep a record of it all and post it in a huge rage quit when I've had enough of the manipulation and hypocrisy that goes on here.

If you think this post is aimed at you it's probably not aimed at you and just your anxiety , the members I'm on about don't give a f**k what others think of them unless they are trying to manipulate.

I've been a mod for about ten years now, but only on a teeny little coders' forum where I've probably had as much sh*t to deal with in the whole decade as you guys get in a day. But I have a fair idea of the kind of shennanigans that can go on behind the scenes, and I know damned well that I couldn't handle either the job in hand or the pressure half as well as any of you.

Hats off to you, mate; and to the rest of the team. It can be a f***ing thankless task sometimes; so thankyou!

(and yes, of course teeny little coders have their own forum, every minority has these days! )

I agree, April. Anxiety is stupid. I hate it. I wish there were no such thing as a sympathetic nervous system. It's obsolete* now that we're not being chased by tigers.

(I really, really want to say something nice and comforting, but someone who's ranting doesn't want to hear that, so the above is my version of comforting.)

*hyperbole

People who send emails expecting an immediate response really grind my gears. If they want an immediate response, they should call me and speak to me. Emails are for passing large volumes of detailed information, and text messages are for small talk once you have their attention. I wish people would get it right!

No, no it's actually comforted me! My parents tend to not take me seriously whenever i talk about my anxiety so it feels nice when someone acknowledges it. I'm considering dropping the course i mentioned anyway since i'm not thinking of working in that subject.

I'm replying to this with tachycardia, which I've had since last night when I read a post that didn't mention me at all, but because I think anything bad is aimed at me, I became absolutely terrified that I have unwittingly offended someone.

Since I'm someone who hates offending anyone, I don't think I'm going to get a normal resting heart rate or steady fingers until someone tells me that I am not a horrible person. Since you are specifically telling me that it's not me, you obviously expected that someone like me would suspect themselves of being addressed. Which I did. Unless it really is me.

Of all the things my brain does, I really wish it wouldn't do this. The phenomenon appears to be massively arrogant, but it's actually entirely fear-based and occurs in people who feel so badly about themselves that they are certain that if something, somewhere, went wrong, they're responsible. At least, that's how I feel, because I have so often been blamed for things I either didn't do or did by accident. I think other aspies feel that way, hypervigilant and what presents to others as hypersensitive. But really, I'm just terrified that all of you are going to hate me, and I'm looking for signs of disapproval and rejection wherever I possibly can. Ultimately, I have the courage to post this not because I need to know if SaveFerris is addressing me but because it's part of a greater problem. I hope people here don't know what I'm talking about, but if they do, it's pretty awful, and it warrants discussion. It's not relevant to this thread--this was only a very long response to someone else's rant, so if it shouldn't be here I apologize and perhaps someone with more knowledge of this site can assist me (if anyone actually wants to talk about it).

Didn't mean to get so wordy. Somehow always do...

I'm not in a position to clarify Ferris' rant, but you're way overreacting.

(((mau_tie))) This has been going on for years. It's not you.

My own rant: People who are so adept at manipulation that the moderators' only recourse is to post a cryptic rant about it, leaving the rest of us to wonder (a) did we do something wrong? - and (b) if not, who is out to get us?