Dear friend,
why did it take you 9 months to see that your sudden change in our friendship contact confused me? I told you so often that I missed you and thought your silence is rejection. You did not hear me. You never responded or answered a question. After 9 months, you said that you would not ignore me. I think you never understood that I missed talking with you.
I understood that you were busy. I did not understand that you were too busy to tell me if we were still friends or not. I asked but no response. I tried to talk with you so often. When you finally made time after 9 months, it were a few minutes only and we did not find a way forward because you ran away again. I asked small things from you, like to tell me if you see us still as friends even though you could not maintain contact. No answer. But you told me that you wanted even less contact, more distance.
I am so frustrated. You complain that I do not respect that you are so busy and have no time. You did not respect me either, never answered even small questions. Talking about these patterns meets ... your silence again. I am so frustrated, feel stuck. The silence activates old and unhealthy thoughts and a lot of fear in me. I do not handle this well. If the fear get too big to manage it, I use anger to escape that fear. I know that my anger is not not good for you. I wish I could be a better person. A different person.
I miss you. I am sorry for letting out my anger on you.
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