Phrases you hated growing up

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Aren't you an Ace? That's doubly awful!

You know, the fact that someone else's wounds are deeper does not mean yours don't need tending

I felt a sort of disgust when I was about to turn 15, who knows what it was that caused it.

I love this so much.

I could relate to so many of these. I want to believe my parents just didn’t know any better. My mom didn’t live with my Oma for the first nine years of her life (post-WWII Europe), and by the time they did live together, Oma was a single mom just trying to keep it together (not bashing single parents at all, but it was hard in the 1950s and 1960s). My dad was one of five boys raised by a WWII vet with untreated PTSD and a mom who lost her own mom fairly young. So neither of them had the best blueprint for being a parent, and certainly not to an Aspie daughter. I have a decent relationship with them now, but there’s a lot I keep to myself.

Virtual hugs to all who want them.

“Just jump through the hoops.”
What hoops?
Where are they?
Am I a performing dolphin now?
Just tell me what I’m meant to be doing for bleep bleep bleep sake!

“Get a life”
Another one?
This ones too much already!
Are you trying to imply that a trade-in is possible?

“A smile costs nothing.”
When you feel like you’re dying in little bits every day inside... that’s not true. Or helpful.

“You’re so arrogant.”
But I just said I thought I’d been put in a class above my abilities, do you even know what words mean? (That was a one-off, still rankles though)

“They’re just immature”
There’s still more of them than me, and most of them are bigger than me.

“Put things back when you’ve finished with them”
How do you know I’ve finished?
I didn’t think so...

That’s enough for now:

Virtual hugs to everyone upthread... think I had it easy in many respects by comparison.

"Everything you have, I own." -- Dear Ol' Dad

This is a rather long list of things I hated hearing, but I can't empathize enough these were not what the majority of my childhood was like. But of course there were irritants, so here goes:


"That's just the way it is."
When I got annoyed or upset by something, usually something I found unfair or thought was handled poorly, or just wanted to be met with understanding

"Your mother was so different than you" / "You are nothing like her" "Your mother was such a quiet and pleasant child."
Yeah well news flash gramps; I was happily myself and not her (nothing wrong with her, or anything, just two different individuals is all), I liked myself, and you should have been able to deal with it!
I know you couldn't fathom a girl liking play fights and toy cars but playing typical girl's games was dead boring to me. I make no apologies for being myself and playing my way as a kid. I likewise do my own things now without the need of anyone's approval.
And while we're at it. normal sounds are not too loud, and putting your fingers demonstratively in your ears was just annoying. If we're gonna have the TV on, I wanna hear what they say, even without gaping and straining my ears

"Opp og gå på skolen"
If there was one thing that was sure to make me pull my duvet right back up it was the reminder that I was woken up in order to go to school. Man, I was skilled at being slow in getting up and on my way and slow on the way too. I hated that boring place and I hated it more the more of my day it and homework ate up.

No specific phrase, but ppl trying to tell me how I really feel or that I don't really feel like that.
usually clueless teachers

The words ladylike and social.

The "knowing" smiles when they (many different they's) assumed they knew better and I would be like them some day. I knew they were wrong because I wasn't like them, and lo and behold, at 42 still no desire for kids, not a smoker, don't wear make-up, don't care about dressing up, and I go for my own interests, not what is expected for someone my age and sex.

Some variant of "Smile!", boy is that a comment that was and is sure to get me grumpy!

OMG yes! Exactly what you say here, Edna!

"We'll see." (Gives false hope that things will happen. That's worse than a flat out "no." A consistent pattern of "We'll see" results in an adult who remains childlike, even if the adult is intellectually capable of doing things).

The Spanish version, "Que Sera, Sera." Not only one of the worst earworms in history, it also tells a child her concerns are worthless.

"If you know this, why don't you know that?" (I am good at remembering things I read and have researched, but with mechanical things, I'm terrible).

I actually wish somebody had said, "I don't care what's wrong with you, you are going to succeed." I didn't really have that experience until I was in my 40s, and now, it's too late for some things to ever happen.

"I'm picking up what you're throwing down." it still makes my skin crawl. For some reason my family was obsessed with saying it in any applicable situation.

"You're so annoying!"

"You're ugly."

"You're stupid."

"You're singing sucks."

(The last four mostly due to the amount they were said by my sister than the actual sayings themselves.)

It's not a phrase, but whenever my sister got upset with my I would hate how she spoke and looked at me in a way that just made me feel as though I was worthless and everyone hated me and that I should hate me too. I could never understand why she didn't love me as much as I loved her. Now I know that it's not worth my pain, she can love me or not love me, I'm not a slave to her opinions anymore.