Who here likes me and still wants to be friends?

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Agreed. This isn't Twitter or Facebook.

I don't want Sly to leave.

I like you Sly,sorry I didn't know about this post sooner,I don't usually cruise the Haven.

Sly, I am sorry for the harsh words I’ve directed towards you in the past when they weren’t called for. I also feel despondent with how ideas divide people, especially in the current status quo.

Thank you, Marknis. Sorry the political setup in your country is sowing so much division and ill feeling. You deserve someone better who has the ability to unite folk.

I love it when folk on WP can set aside their differences and act like true AS spectrum family. Different but united.

Whenever I've reached out to sly, he hasn't really reached out back. *Shrug*

^ That's probably social difficulties ? He seems like the type of fox who wouldn't take a long distance phone call from you due to anxiety

Yeah, I've learned not to take that kind of thing personally. If I see someone in distress and think a good word might help, I post, if I don't think I can help, I don't post at all.

It's a pleasant surprise if they reciprocate, but I don't expect it.

My policy exactly!

Btw: Has your back mended fully by now?

I figured that.

^^ I guess my point was that sly doesn't always seem to help himself, if that makes sense. Even when others offer it.

Oh, yes, so well I almost forgot about it . Thanks for asking




I know what you mean, he's not the only one. Prolonged abuse and trauma can cause a lot of complications and make people resistant to help that brings change and even feel unworthy of being happy. This would make for a very interesting discussion, but it's probably not the right place.

I had a lot of experience and exposure to this kind of stuff and I'm probably more tolerant, but I understand how exasperating it can be. The thing is that you cannot help anyone unless they're ready for it, so I usually just offer a good word or a friendly ear, because I know I can't do more unless they ask.

And in some cases, people really need professional help and many situations here are just too complicated for an outsider to do much about. I sometimes felt that way about you when you were upset: I wished I could do more, but I knew I was out of my depth. So sometimes a kind word or a virtual hug is all I can offer, maybe they'll feel less isolated in their pain. I know it can seem shallow, but it's at least sincere.

Sly is a very bright guy. There's nothing cognitively wrong with him. I am sure he's been through trauma.

The main problem with Sly, in my opinion, is that he doesn't get to meet decent people for various reasons--some in his control, and some not in his control. People who don't have the values found in the Internet trolls which he tends to encounter. People in the "real world" are not like those Internet trolls.

O.o

^ You're awesome sly. Don't worry about it.

Yes Sly's a good guy and deserves to have some friends on here he can count on.

Pointing that out will be interpreted as bullying even when it's true.