This week is too much :(

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31 Oct 2020, 8:38 pm

I haven't been here for a while, but I need an outlet. Could really use support. I left a verbally abusive marriage and it was worse this week than anything before until the moment I was done moving and didn't have to go back. I moved everything myself because of covid restrictions. My daughter is at his house tonight, I have never spent a night away from her. A giant tumor has developed in the last few days on my oldest cat. The school I teach at just had its first positive covid case. A friend that has been really close through email just stopped responding and I have no idea why. I want to curl up and sleep through it all, but my mind can't stop.



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31 Oct 2020, 9:08 pm

Aww. Difficult times come like a storm, but the seasons of life change so spring is around the corner.



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31 Oct 2020, 10:16 pm

Thanks, I hope so!



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31 Oct 2020, 10:22 pm

I would be overwhelmed, too.

I hope you do curl up with a good book, or a good TV program tonight.



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01 Nov 2020, 6:31 pm

I don't have a tv yet and I can't focus enough to read, but curling up sounds about right. Thanks!



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01 Nov 2020, 6:48 pm

So sorry to read all that you are going through...Keep in mind that all this shall pass...And know that you are setting a fine example for your daughter...So that when she grows up, she knows that disrespect in any way, shape, or form is unacceptable and should not be tolerated...FORGIVING is ok, but only when offender changes...Try PRAYER...Not just as a form of therapy; there is someone who cares, listening to you... :heart: :heart: :heart:



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01 Nov 2020, 6:49 pm

I’m sorry you had such a rough week. And it’s terrible to be separated from your child. Snuggle under the covers and sleep. I’m glad you got out of an abusive relationship. Is your daughter safe with him?


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01 Nov 2020, 7:30 pm

Thank you Clueless2017 and blazing star. I think she's safe. He's a narcissist, so he'll put on a show. I'm more worried about that for when she gets older and starts to challenge him.



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03 Nov 2020, 9:25 am

starcats wrote:
Thank you Clueless2017 and blazing star. I think she's safe. He's a narcissist, so he'll put on a show. I'm more worried about that for when she gets older and starts to challenge him.


... ... ...I am the daughter of a reformed narcissist...So, i know exactly what you mean...Contrary to what 'experts' say, narcissists CAN change for the better...Usually it takes a life or death experience for them to change...In the case of my father, he became a Christian, a true Christian...In the case of your husband, i hope his love for his daughter changes him...Some men are not good husbands but can be great fathers...Hope you feel better...And know that better times will come... :heart: :heart: :heart: