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06 Apr 2023, 6:28 am

Again, I’ve only been here 1.5 years, but I couldn’t agree more.



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06 Apr 2023, 6:51 am

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I understand there has always been members I have clashed with (NOT referring to anyone in particular, just saying overall in my 13 years of being here), but it usually stayed in the threads related to the topic we clashed with, and even then they weren't that hostile and we just moved on.

These days it seems some people carry their hostilities across the forum, chumming up with only members who share exactly the same political views, and know how to get away with it by being really subtle and thinking that just because we're Aspies we won't notice it. But I do. I have that intuition.

Again I'm not referring to anyone in particular.


Agreed.
There is a lot of subtext these days.



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06 Apr 2023, 7:02 am

I don't get subtext so it's probably going over my head.

I just think humans are getting worse. Everyone seems to be getting nastier and nastier. Even people I was friends with years ago, when I meet them again they are nasty to me. They aren't the people I remember.

What is happening to the human race.


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06 Apr 2023, 9:41 am

sorry to see you go ...hard to consistently have decent people on almost any site with this type of set up .
but if all the good ones go , all that will be left is _______. You get the idea , fill in the blank as you see fit .
Even more sad that things and peeps got SOOO aweful that you even had to consider leaving .


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06 Apr 2023, 9:45 am

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theres too much obsession with sex here and talk about penises but not just in the adult section

with all this sexual grooming and stuff going on i prefer not be post here as often because i dont want to be vulnerable to anything

i havent officially left but im keeping my distance a little

joe90 and rexi are right this forum aint like it used to be

I was told not even the adult section is supposed to be sexual, not even soft porn should be there, I'm talking about AAI, which has the least restrained of rules.
As a couple, we couldn't even be seen hearting, flirting or hugging outside it.
I very clearly see what you mean.


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06 Apr 2023, 9:48 am

Caz72 wrote:
theres too much obsession with sex here and talk about penises but not just in the adult section

with all this sexual grooming and stuff going on i prefer not be post here as often because i dont want to be vulnerable to anything

i havent officially left but im keeping my distance a little

joe90 and rexi are right this forum aint like it used to be


For what it's worth, grooming had been going on for years and mostly wasn't done in public.

At least one person associated with that behaviour has been banned.

There was more risk of experiencing it before the sticky was posted and a perp got banned.


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06 Apr 2023, 10:06 am

funeralxempire wrote:
Caz72 wrote:
theres too much obsession with sex here and talk about penises but not just in the adult section

with all this sexual grooming and stuff going on i prefer not be post here as often because i dont want to be vulnerable to anything

i havent officially left but im keeping my distance a little

joe90 and rexi are right this forum aint like it used to be


For what it's worth, grooming had been going on for years and mostly wasn't done in public.

At least one person associated with that behaviour has been banned.

There was more risk of experiencing it before the sticky was posted and a perp got banned.


I think you missed what Caz said:
"theres too much obsession with sex here and talk about penises but not just in the adult section"
There HAS been a preponderance of sexual and "Penis" public posts, lately, outside of the adult section.



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06 Apr 2023, 10:21 am

Pepe wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Caz72 wrote:
theres too much obsession with sex here and talk about penises but not just in the adult section

with all this sexual grooming and stuff going on i prefer not be post here as often because i dont want to be vulnerable to anything

i havent officially left but im keeping my distance a little

joe90 and rexi are right this forum aint like it used to be


For what it's worth, grooming had been going on for years and mostly wasn't done in public.

At least one person associated with that behaviour has been banned.

There was more risk of experiencing it before the sticky was posted and a perp got banned.


I think you missed what Caz said:
"theres too much obsession with sex here and talk about penises but not just in the adult section"
There HAS been a preponderance of sexual and "Penis" public posts, lately, outside of the adult section.


I haven't seen them. Discussions about sexual issues are only allowed in the adult section as far as I know. Are these posts that you're talking about random posts in threads or entire topics dedicated to them. The mods usually either delete those posts or, if it's an entire thread dedicated to it, it would be moved to the adult section. Even then, only frank discussion about sexual topics are allowed in the adult forum, porn is not allowed there. Have I missed something?



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06 Apr 2023, 10:45 am

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I haven't seen them. Discussions about sexual issues are only allowed in the adult section as far as I know. Are these posts that you're talking about random posts in threads or entire topics dedicated to them. The mods usually either delete those posts or, if it's an entire thread dedicated to it, it would be moved to the adult section. Even then, only frank discussion about sexual topics are allowed in the adult forum, porn is not allowed there. Have I missed something?



There were heaps of penises and testicles being waved around in various threads.
We didn't make this up.
I even have a screenshot of one incident, that I took as a joke.
It didn't worry me personally, and I said so in my post. :mrgreen:



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06 Apr 2023, 10:48 am

It's everywhere. I don't even mind it in Adult because that's where it belongs. I'm no prude and I'll joke about sex as much as anyone else. It's seeped out to L&D in particular but also News, Women's, Random, and other places, not to mention PM, email, and other sites where the same offenders like to troll. It's still happening in L&D in several threads despite the warning. It's caused paranoia among men, and hysteria among some women who take sides and blame other women for exaggerating a problem which they personally know nothing about.

I'm not talking about penises but about sexism and accusations of mass-conspiracy gender-war when people try to say we're all equal, or when people gaslight women by telling them their feelings aren't valid --- exactly what's happening in this thread when people are mudslinging about who's to blame while simultaneously spamming lostonearth's goodbye and invalidating her own observations after 13 years of membership.

We don't know WTF lostonearth witnessed or experienced here because she's not here to speak for herself. Please stop and realise she's likely not naming names because she respects people's privacy in the same way some of you aren't respecting hers. For all we know she's reported everything. It's not our place to judge.

This is not a good luck for us at WP. We were already known for blatant sexism and infighting so, frankly, that's why some people didn't speak up sooner. The affected people knew this shit-storm would ensue and they didn't want to deal with all the backlash so they quit the site instead of saying anything. We're supposed to be helping and supporting one another rather than posting denials, joining sides, or suggesting women are wrong. Maybe some of you didn't see it for yourselves because we were lucky enough to be unaffected. You should be glad.

It's a huge insult to WP when someone like lostonearth35 says she's leaving and tells us exactly why, but a few casual apologists still turn it into a three-ring circus rather than actually wishing her well.


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06 Apr 2023, 10:55 am

I think the responses in this thread are actually empathising with the OP.

And many people don't like writing a goodbye post because they fear the responses will just be "they just want attention" or "they'll come back, they always do". Thankfully no-one has wrote that in this thread and were actually more sympathetic than anything else.

I just know how the OP feels.


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06 Apr 2023, 11:06 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
It's everywhere. I don't even mind it in Adult because that's where it belongs. I'm no prude and I'll joke about sex as much as anyone else. It's seeped out to L&D in particular but also News, Women's, Random, and other places, not to mention PM, email, and other sites where the same offenders like to troll. It's still happening in L&D in several threads despite the warning. It's caused paranoia among men, and hysteria among some women who take sides and blame other women for exaggerating a problem which they personally know nothing about.

I'm not talking about penises but about sexism and accusations of mass-conspiracy gender-war when people try to say we're all equal, or when people gaslight women by telling them their feelings aren't valid --- exactly what's happening in this thread when people are mudslinging about who's to blame while simultaneously spamming lostonearth's goodbye and invalidating her own observations after 13 years of membership.

We don't know WTF lostonearth witnessed or experienced here because she's not here to speak for herself. Please stop and realise she's likely not naming names because she respects people's privacy in the same way some of you aren't respecting hers. For all we know she's reported everything. It's not our place to judge.

This is not a good luck for us at WP. We were already known for blatant sexism and infighting so, frankly, that's why some people didn't speak up sooner. The affected people knew this shit-storm would ensue and they didn't want to deal with all the backlash so they quit the site instead of saying anything. We're supposed to be helping and supporting one another rather than posting denials, joining sides, or suggesting women are wrong. Maybe some of you didn't see it for yourselves because we were lucky enough to be unaffected. You should be glad.

It's a huge insult to WP when someone like lostonearth35 says she's leaving and tells us exactly why, but a few casual apologists still turn it into a three-ring circus rather than actually wishing her well.


There are problems that need to be fixed.



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06 Apr 2023, 11:30 am

I asked where two other members were yesterday but my post was removed. Now I'm wondering WTH happened to them.


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06 Apr 2023, 11:54 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
It's a huge insult to WP when someone like lostonearth35 says she's leaving and tells us exactly why, but a few casual apologists still turn it into a three-ring circus rather than actually wishing her well.


Um, which post in this thread does that? I'm just trying to figure out what actually happened. She mentioned anti-autistics as well as misogynists in her post.



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06 Apr 2023, 12:01 pm

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I asked where two other members were yesterday but my post was removed. Now I'm wondering WTH happened to them.


Which two posters?


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06 Apr 2023, 1:21 pm

I hope lostonearth comes back in the future.


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