Why am I pressuring myself into things I don't want to do?

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I know this is a question that maybe only I can answer, but I do find me questioning my own self as to why I sometimes self impose pressure into doing stuff I don't really want to do or not very interested in doing because I seem to think or perceive that everyone around me is doing them and that by doing what they are also doing will somehow make me feel much more happier and more content with life because I ''have'' or achieved the same things as what they have.

Some of these things is the ridiculous rushing thoughts of trying to meet someone, start a relationship, be in a relationship long-term and then have a child all because I see other people in their early 30s, late 20s etc doing these things. One of these people is my sister who has a 3 year old son. I seem to feel bad at myself for not experiencing some of the things people in their 20s go through at that stage of life before 30 which includes meeting someone, falling in love and forming a long-term relationship, moving in together, and starting a family for the first time. I've had several friends who were girls, one I really liked but she didn't want anything more than a friendship with me and there was someone else who really liked me but I wasn't sure if she was really the one for a relationship and didn't want to rush into it and ended up staying friends.

I can't understand why I find it so hard to retain what other people in my family, friends and my own self keep telling myself not to compare to other people because trying to live like other people will end up making me feel less happy and less satisfied and also end up missing out doing things I really wanted to do. I keep reminding myself at the same time that other people may not have things which I have. For example, my sister has her own child to care for full time, her own little house which I don't have but I drive a car and have a job which I have held for a few years and my sister hasn't had any jealous feelings about me driving my own car and a long-term paid job. So why am I having similar thoughts because she and other people her age have children and their own homes when they may not have what I have ?

You need to go to a therapist. Only you know why you feel the way you do. No one here can answer your questions. A therapist might.

Because everyone wants what they can't have.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

It is pretty common to feel anxious when we are off the social clock-not doing things at the expected ages for them.

Plus how do you know your sister has never felt jealous over you owning a care? Can you read her mind?