Am I late to do something

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My age is almost 27 in a few weeks. It's been a fast journey. Time passed quickly.
So far, i did not progress in any aspects of life. My social skills and are not good. Mental health is not well either. Aspergers, depression and also anxiety. All I wanted in life was advancing in career. But it didn't happen. I'm 148 iq but could not realize the potential. So, I'm pretty much like a 10-15 year old, maybe 18 year old, or whatever. I cant figure out why I couldn't take a place in society. Is it because I dont have a network, bad mental health, or something else? My 17 year old self is not different than 27 and it's ridiculous. Will anything ever change

What can I say? I'm 70 and still feel like the kid who went to grade school.

I did not concentrate on accomplishments but rather on motion in the right direction.

I generally tried to move toward a better future and that future has turned out to be pretty good. Except, of course, I'm 70. Things got a lot better when I retired comfortably at 56. I don't have expensive tastes; my biggest luxury is my bride...who I married when I was 45.

My recommendation is always try to move toward "better".

P.S. And join Mensa.

Yes but only if you make it change. If you don't, it won't. The choice is yours. You are not helpless or hopeless.

I can remember my 20s being a really difficult time actually because it's when you think everyone expects you to be an adult and settled down etc etc

It's just not the case

Not everyone's the same but unfortunately a life won't come knocking at your door

Sometimes you have to try on a million pairs of shoes before you get the right fit and it's the same with life

You have to try the world on to see what fits and where you fit

I wish you well

Oh yeah and it's not too late for you

Yeah. 27ish is when I started having a life...though my social life didn't start until I was...um...well later than that...to some extent later than now.

We all get dealt cards and just make the best of our hand. Don't compare yourself to your neighbor, they do them, you do you.

I did not advance very high. I made enough to be independent and not have to worry so much. But you know, I know plenty of people that make more than me. It is OK.

Ye do the best ye can, with what ye got, is my philosophy.

Try to get treatment for the depression and anxiety.

I felt them recently, because Christmas always gets me depressed, due to bad memories of Christmases past. And I get lonely.

Then my heart started acting up with chest pains. I realized, if I stay depressed and anxious...I could die.

That helps to focus the mind. Now I don't feel depressed or anxious. I just relax and focus on my breathing.

You had better start now. How much harder will it be if you are asking the same question at 37?

If you are asking this particular question, then you probably already know the answer. Start to take action now.

Even if you think it's late, arrived late. that's the most important you arrived.

It will happen on its own timeline. I don't think it's about pushing to meet certain milestones, especially if those milestones are just a ruler to measure against others. Stay open, keep learning, and find support for who you are now.

definitely not too late, if you start now. With your high IQ you should maybe look for highly technical jobs where it doesn't matter so much about social skills

Untreated depression and anxiety can hold you back from achieving anything meaningful. They make you feel scared and sap the motivation needed to start or make progress. I’m 23, and I’ve been recovering from both. I haven’t started college yet and have never had a job. But now, I’m able to wake up each day, self-study for 6 hours, enjoy the process, and dream of a bright future ahead.

With raising kids, they talk about meeting milestones. Things like walking, speech, reading, and so on.

As an adult, you get to set and meet your own milestones.

My philosophy as a 13 year old became this: Point yourself in the right direction and give yourself a push.

It's never too late to make progress I understand though how you feel. I was in the same place at 27. I didn't have much of my social life together and if i'm perfectly honest I still don't but that's ok though. None of us are on the same path. We each progress at our own pace. I believe rushing ourselves thinking we need to meet "x" milestone only worsens anxiety in my humble opinion. You just keep being the best "you" you can be Hope you had a great New year!

Better late than never, no?