Incessant lonliness

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jamieboy
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30 Jan 2011, 12:26 am

How do people cope? I may aswell be a rock or a tree for all the enjoyment i'm getting out of life.

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30 Jan 2011, 12:51 am

I just remember that I am alive and breathing and am thankful that I am not experiencing chronic physical pain. I am thankful for the abilities that I do have, for all that I have learned and for all that I will continue to learn, as well as for my curiosity and my desire to experience understanding.

A rock and a tree may not experience enjoyment, but they also have no need for the hyped-up constantly entertained state that many humans find themselves craving in these times of technological takeover. Similarly, rocks and trees experience what we humans seem to have so much difficulty grasping; they have a small niche in a system much larger than themselves and do not feel the need to be omnipotent.

We humans have knowledge of what we do not know and what we are not, and it drives us crazy. Each time I feel 'insanity' or 'loneliness' creeping up on me, I remember that it is not the first moment that I have experienced that emotion, nor will it be the last, and these emotions are only drops in a sea of human experience.

In short, I try to relish the little pleasures, as I am one very tiny person on a very large planet, teeming with life and information.

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30 Jan 2011, 2:08 am

jamieboy wrote:

How do people cope? I may aswell be a rock or a tree for all the enjoyment i'm getting out of life.

I am lonely much of the time because I just don't have a really close friend (even after so many years being married to someone who is not my friend).

Do you have any pets? I think my cats "get" me better than any human has.

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30 Jan 2011, 2:18 am

jamieboy wrote:

How do people cope? I may aswell be a rock or a tree for all the enjoyment i'm getting out of life.

there must be at least one thing in your grasp that you can dig. concentrate on that thing, regardless of how it may seem to others, your opinion of it is all that matters.

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30 Jan 2011, 2:30 am

I find that focusing on the little things helps. I have a lot of interests, I enjoy indulging them. I enjoy being with my cat. I try not to think too much about the things that I am missing. I try to make little steps, a little bit of progress at a time.

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30 Jan 2011, 3:33 am

I feel lonely too. I'm living with my parents what makes me embarrassed because I'm about 40. I agree that having hobbies helps and I'm glad I have them. I have a dog and it makes me happier too. I just try enjoy every day and don't make a big deal of being lonely.

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30 Jan 2011, 4:34 am

infrared wrote:

don't fret about the 40-and-with-parents part- i stayed with my parents until they both passed away, at which point i was in my late 40s. i was their default caretaker. you may find yourself in that situation before long, so you should prepare for it.

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30 Jan 2011, 7:50 am

eudaimonia wrote:

Well said.

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30 Jan 2011, 3:21 pm

auntblabby wrote:

infrared wrote:

Thanks. Good point. I actually already discussed this issue w/my parents & they see it as benefit that I'll be living with them when they'll need help. The main reason I see it as embarrassing to live with parents at 40 is that most people don't .

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30 Jan 2011, 3:58 pm

I'm very lonely too. Having a pet helps, don't know how I would cope without my cat.

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30 Jan 2011, 6:19 pm

bookworm285 wrote:

I'm very lonely too. Having a pet helps, don't know how I would cope without my cat.

Absolutely. I had to put my previous cat to sleep last year, and I suddenly realized how much of a difference a pet can make.

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30 Jan 2011, 6:27 pm

auntblabby wrote:

infrared wrote:

Same here, though I'm just entering the care taking phase. I find that people are a bit less 'bad' about hearing about living with parents, when they pick up that there is some care-taking going on. I think a lot of people fear doing that, and don't intend to, and so feel guilty about it. So, they get a bit less judgmental. (Or maybe they just don't say it as much.)

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30 Jan 2011, 9:58 pm

I just do, and my dog's help

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31 Jan 2011, 12:54 am

i just do, i distract myself with the internet. of course if my internet is down, then i can see how lonely i am or when i wake up in the morning with nothing planned except the same thing from yesterday. its a struggle, it sucks, and it can be stressful to truly come to terms with loneliness. it is what it is.

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31 Jan 2011, 1:13 am

Same as Musicprophets, I cope by distracting myself with my interests, and just surfing the internet. But when I'm not immersed in something fun I remember my loneliness. But I bear with it in hopes of finding happiness in the future.

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31 Jan 2011, 11:44 am

If you are an aspie or autistic I recommend pets. This thread tells you that. Pets help me cope.

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