Some time ago, I wrote here on the forums expressing my dissatisfaction with my bf's attitude towards me. Basically. Since the end of May, things started to change. His temper became shorter, he became less and less affectionate up to the point that I felt/feel so unwanted and unloved that it feels to me as if I'm an unwanted neighbour inviting herself for coffee on a really bad moment. During summer it became more and more apparent that there's some kind of depression going on, which he finally admitted in August when he started to become psychotic.
I feel concerned with his well-being. And as I know he suffers waaaaay, way more than I do I'm having problems for a while now too. I have nowhere to go really with my issues, as most friends are common and every single one of the people who got a clue about how I feel have been pushing me to dump him and date them instead. Right. Not in the mood for such jokes.
I feel lonely and sad often, and I often cry at night time. I feel I have no support or someone who's on my side. I had to start a new college year and nobody asked me anything, offered any type of support or whatever and my bf only made it worse by saying people at that place are horrible, which I knew to be rubbish because he doesn't know any of them but it DID somehow give more stress.
I have been patient and remained interested in his well-being. But certain things are hard for me to deal with, especially over a several-month course.
-Childish behaviors. Just...acting like a kid or a ''teenager''. Acting dramatic about tiny stuff. I know it's the disorder, but remaining patient is difficult even though I always managed.
-Feeling very unloved and unwanted. Somehow, because I AM in the relationship, lack of ''love'' or ''appreciation'' hurts more than when being single, when I don't mind. I guess it is because the lack of it is now so apparent. He acts so unaffectionate, uninterested, etc, and I know he can't really help it, but I suffer from it too.
-His ''suicidal behaviors''. Saying bizarre stuff on the internet, (just not normal, not good) quoting suicide notes. It gives me stress and I know I can't do anything about it. It just worries me to see him acting bizarre again.
-I seem to do very little right and when I make a small ''missstep'' (I already have some kind of protocol when communicating) I get loads of negativity and what not, despite the fact that I keep my distance (he can't have much now), despite my patience with a lot of things, my interest in him and sincere wish for him to feel better.
Now he just sent me a text message acting all negatively. I made a slight ''missstep'' last night so now he's acting all traumatized.
There's attention for his feelings, but I can't burden him with mine, so I have to deal with it myself. Writing it off of me does help. I'm not depressed, nor constantly sad, but I do have issues with it and I think I'm going to my university's psychologist.
Apologies for any bad English.