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06 Feb 2007, 2:34 am

Last week I got sick and missed out on most of my classes from Tuesday on. Now I'm still pretty behind. I'm really upset about it. I am really starting to get upset about being alone too. I want somebody I can be close to so I can talk to her about some of the crap I've had to deal with in my life, but I just haven't got the foggiest idea where to start, most of the advice I've been given is hard to apply where I live. I tried to get a haircut last week and I couldn't even do that. Now my mother skipped the laundry day on Saturday and I can't get any of my clothes washed. It feels so hopeless right now. I'm starting to wish I hadn't been so lucky all those times I narrowly escaped death.



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06 Feb 2007, 2:36 am

and I need a hug



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06 Feb 2007, 2:36 am

and I need a hug



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06 Feb 2007, 3:11 am

ahayes wrote:
Last week I got sick and missed out on most of my classes from Tuesday on. Now I'm still pretty behind. I'm really upset about it. I am really starting to get upset about being alone too. I want somebody I can be close to so I can talk to her about some of the crap I've had to deal with in my life, but I just haven't got the foggiest idea where to start, most of the advice I've been given is hard to apply where I live. I tried to get a haircut last week and I couldn't even do that. Now my mother skipped the laundry day on Saturday and I can't get any of my clothes washed. It feels so hopeless right now. I'm starting to wish I hadn't been so lucky all those times I narrowly escaped death.

hey come on
we aren't close in distance , but we are all here to talk to , we are here to listen to you , and your feelings about everything
try to do like what I do , what I don't want to do it today , I will do it tomorrow ( usually it ends up doing it the next month :D )
but I just wondering , you wish you didn't escape death , because your clothes are not clean?! , I don't think its this bad

can any girl here give him a hug? please !



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06 Feb 2007, 2:55 pm

Well, I reckon he wouldn't want a hug from an old lady like me, so I'll try to come up with another way to help instead. :)

Just wondering, ahayes, if it would help to write a list of whatever's bugging you? Put the worst thing first and carry on until you've got all your problems down on paper. Then cross off the things you can't do anything about. The things you can do something about, start to work on.

Stuff that's bugging you that you want to talk about, well, you could either write it down to get it out of your system, I know a few people who keep a diary for this, and don't forget WP, s'what it's here for. It helps to get a different perspective on things sometimes.



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06 Feb 2007, 3:30 pm

I am sure some of your classmates will be willing to help you out.
Try asking to go over the notes you missed.
You could even study together, and maybe get that hug you need.


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06 Feb 2007, 3:49 pm

ahayes wrote:
Last week I got sick and missed out on most of my classes from Tuesday on. Now I'm still pretty behind. I'm really upset about it. I am really starting to get upset about being alone too. I want somebody I can be close to so I can talk to her about some of the crap I've had to deal with in my life, but I just haven't got the foggiest idea where to start, most of the advice I've been given is hard to apply where I live. I tried to get a haircut last week and I couldn't even do that. Now my mother skipped the laundry day on Saturday and I can't get any of my clothes washed. It feels so hopeless right now. I'm starting to wish I hadn't been so lucky all those times I narrowly escaped death.


Well, you aren't alone in this kind of thing, if that helps any. Misery loves company, right? At least that's what I've heard from someone that acted like they knew...

I wasn't sick last Thursday, just depressed, so I gave myself a vacation. Didn't help the depression, but it kept me from randomly thrashing someone for looking at me wrong while on campus. I guess that's a good trade-off. (I'm also currently skipping a research meeting I'm supposed to be at, simply because I don't feel psychologically up to staying on campus any longer today, and being reckless / stupid and killing a bottle of wine seems like such a better idea for me right now. And yet I'm typing on my laptop while sitting in a different building...)

As for the feeling alone, again, understood. (That whole depression thing I mentioned?)

Just take it a day at a time. If you think about how the entirety of the past week could be detrimental to you, then you also have that thought to deal with along with all the others. More negative thoughts, less ability to handle negative thoughts. At least that's my current experience.

Sometimes in life it doesn't matter as much where you start, so long as you start somewhere.

For the sake of honesty, yeah, I'm being highly hypocritical with that last statement, but I think its good advice, for myself as well. I'm just apparently really bad at taking my own advice...



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06 Feb 2007, 5:22 pm

*hugs to you* :-)



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06 Feb 2007, 10:18 pm

OA_ wrote:
*hugs to you* :-)

Thank you.



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06 Feb 2007, 10:23 pm

OH I am sorry!
Big hugs to you!
Days like this suck.
I agree with what someone else said, have you asked to borrow notes or for a study partner?



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06 Feb 2007, 10:48 pm

A warm pat on the back for you; everything will be okay.



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07 Feb 2007, 3:36 pm

Get things in perspective... you can always catch up on school, get a haircut, etc... it's not like you got diagnosed with terminal cancer or anything. Life is pretty good, don't sweat the small things in life.



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09 Feb 2007, 10:57 pm

Space wrote:
Get things in perspective... you can always catch up on school, get a haircut, etc... it's not like you got diagnosed with terminal cancer or anything. Life is pretty good, don't sweat the small things in life.


Small s**t adds up and it's not going away. Not to mention that I still feel like I want to die.



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10 Feb 2007, 12:38 am

{a BIG HUG}

If you need someone to talk to you are welcome to PM me. Just don't PSOT. (Sorry I couldn't resist.)

Now about the clothes thing. Is it upsetting because you are a cleanliness freak? Is there anything you can do about the laundry situation? Is it like a favorite shirt or jeans you are worried about because they are dirty? Can you maybe wash them yourself this week since your mom didn't? It helps to step back from the situation and say ok what is bothering me the most and what can I do to make things work out.



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10 Feb 2007, 1:24 am

Hang in there dude! (I'm often very lonely as well!) :cry: Every dark tunnel has a lighter hope, so don't hang yourself with a bungee cord rope.. :D
You seem like a very cool person... you probably know a helluva lot more about computers than I do... and I went to Technical College for 2 years and studied Network Administration! BTW, I did graduate with a AAS degree -- but haven't found a good job yet.

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Not to mention that I still feel like I want to die.

Everybody feels that way sometimes -- even I do -- very often in fact... However, once you're "gone", "you're gone"...there's no "UNDO" about it! :roll:

I think that prayin's sometimes a waste of time...however, I wish you the best of luck and you'll "fo' shizzle my nizzle" be in my thoughts! :) Who says guys can't hug, LOL! :lol:



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10 Feb 2007, 4:50 am

*Handshakes ahayes*

Do whatever you want, I'll tell you if you've really lost it.


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