Supervisors Are Knobs!

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This probation officer I see like every fortnight to get asked fishy questions...well - he is a dickhead.

He was aware that I asked my social worker about a new males-only care work team from a different outlet, which seemed mature and not to mention, more ideal for my needs. Yes? Now he claims that this cannot happen as A, I hated the prior ones 'moving on' and B, a lot of caregivers are women. False!

Finding another flat is way too hard as well because one living on benefits may never be offered an ordinary flat and usually, somebody has to be bidding like hell just to stand a chance of finding a place eventually.

He agreed that a guys only plan was ideal and now he goes back on his word, and my being allowed online with his blessing has been overruled, so if I want to use any social media websites, he must be notified of this.

My court order was also amended. Apparently now, I am not supposed to get online at all, yet he said to me before I could go use the Internet publicly in libraries, as opposed to owning devices with Internet capabilities as personal computers have to be checked. The curfew rule is still in place and I wanted to work as a film extra.

From 1 January, all the extras on a film set working with those under 18 will now have to provide a certificate from the police, disclosing any charges.

Furthermore, he told his boss about me blabbing to my dentist about my injustices. This is a lady I seldom ever need to see. So because I shared my sense of injustice with her, he assumed I fancy her like the aides I had and he claims he has to call up the NHS to find out her place of employment. That's intrusive. He also wants to know the names of any sex workers I see.

He cannot do that. In fact, he only knew about my dentist and I talking because I explained this to him, so he will not be getting any more such info in the future.

I have gave up thinking I can do anything about Autism Initiatives as there is no proof and I would rather be somewhere in life rather than dwell and feel like crap for more months to come. But since I gave my laptop to the court, life at home has sucked. Plus, I do not currently have support and I get mixed responses from my supervisor, my advocate and several others, so it feels like the help ain't there. It is a waste of my time. Living with my family means I am in a very cluttered environment.

I am...stuck. Can the WP people help?

Probation officers aren't on your side, they aren't supposed to be your friend or a source of support. They're there to make sure you don't get into trouble or harm others. In reality, he's just doing his job. He'll probably be invasive and obnoxious, just follow the rules and get through it. If he's going to distrust you as much as he is though, it's best to not tell him anything short of what you're required to.

The only good advice I can find is get a good social worker.. past that, unfortunately, it's just something you have to power through as quick as you can.. it's unfortunate consequences.

Or manifest a lot of cash and dispel all this with a well-connected lawyer. Clearly you've had to deal with a good number of deluded people, might as well work on usurping them.

Or they caught you by the balls. It's mostly up to you in the grand scheme of things.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

Your probation officer is trying to keep you safe.

Those boundaries that he has placed around your activities are not there to punish you. They are there TO KEEP YOU SAFE. If you can respect the boundaries he has placed for you as what they are, and actually follow them, everything else will fall into place eventually.

If you are not supposed to be on the Internet at all, why are you posting here? You are putting your well-being in further danger, and that is worrisome.

Truth be told; I would be bored stiff without the Internet. Sometimes, I hate the Internet and all its users put me through, but it would be more of a dull life without it there, as at least it is good for the free entertainment. Plus, everyone uses the Internet to advertise jobs. It would be next to impossible to find work as a film extra without sticking profiles online first and having to check listings on a regular basis.

I love music, but most of my music was added to my Samsung phone which was confiscated. An MP3 player will not support .M4A files and all that. I've not really got any CDs either.

Seeing as how I don't even have support sessions and my parents' place is a complete s**thole, and my best mate is too focused on his new hobby, all of this stress has gotten me down. Now I totally wish I had never made my feelings for J & S obvious, because it really started a ruckus. I've been processed and spat out by the people "qualified" to help me.

You should be using TOR.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

How long is your probation?

The Community Payback Order started in April, so you might as well say it will be this way until at least October of next year.

Oh, that sounds just marvelous.

https://www.torproject.org/

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I thought it was longer. Less than a year? Not too bad, really.

Well, any momentum I had has been lost. Life feels like a boring routine. A lot of Wrong Planet members are fed up.

I feel like I caused this for trying to be affectionate with the wrong sort of people.

You can change the momentum.

If you go read over my first thread about me being in jail the first two times from way back in October of last year, one member said it was a mistake that I tried to treat one of the male workers as if he were a good mate. That person raised some valid points.

To be honest, I only feel I need them for back-up in situations where I would be interacting with others. My confidence is incredibly low. The panicky feelings will not cease. I've found going into Tesco just to buy a few items stress provoking.

It also does not help that I am in my bed most of the working day. Sometimes, I do not begin to feel sleepy until four in the morning, which means the normal hours for me are like the middle of the night. That is not cool.

I must admit - I never used my prior support team productively. Rather, I shunned the idea of getting a social life as I kept worrying about what people thought of me and my ex kept on screwing with me. They were utilized poorly. Some of them had a could not be bothered attitude.

I wish I had a magic remote so I could rewind the past and then I could undo upsetting Sara and Joanna, but maybe the truth is that they were just in that job for the money. I'm never going to know their take on me going to prison over them, nor would I want to if I felt they supported the idea of me being locked up. Again, it eats away at me.

Some dull days, all I do is lay in bed and listen to the traffic go by, and remind myself of when I had a home and I think about my Spanish key worker, and then a dark cloud forms over the best memories.

Plainly yes, they were in it for the money or no way would hardly any other women have weaseled you all the way to jail for trying to be friendly. Obviously the idea that a person can be too friendly is inane, cranky & outmoded. Nobody needs that.

You're dealing with people who earn their living pretending to be detail oriented. Actually, they're not.

That said, you've got funds to rent a place. That's more than a lot of us can say. Stateside, many if not the vast majority of people on the spectrum live with no welfare, nobody employed to help out and generally way too much social pressure to consider social security or even unemployment benefits. What I really mean by that is that you're in a position to supply a brand of hospitality that an awful lot of people blithely forgot in recent years. Find ASD meetups and invite new friends around when you're happy with your housing scenario.

Also please consider taking my encryption advice - as far as I'm concerned, internet access is a human right so long as we who work to maintain it can abide those humans it serves.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

Well, somebody will help me in the new year. These rats have no right to say I cannot have support. Also, I said I could manage the problem with falling in love with women working as caregivers by having just men as helpers. But then if they claim that is not ideal because they will one day decide to leave, well then the world is filled with useless people that know not what they speak of.

You might also feel better if you test your resoluteness via refusal to depend on anyone.

_________________
"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos