What can we do to prevent rejection?

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I was wondering, what can we do to prevent people from rejecting us?

I feel so bad that people have rejected me because of the little things I have done wrong! What can we do that will prevent that from happening to us again?

In my mind, I am thinking there is no next time to improve my social skills because I have difficulty thinking positively after I have done so much wrong.

Can anyone help me with this?

I would suggest that those who reject you for being yourself, were not worth your time in the first place.
Would you want to spend the rest of your life forcing yourself to fit other peoples' ideas of how you should be?

Unfortunately, I really like the last person who did so!

I tend to avoid people who reject me, due to me differences.

I said, unfortunately, I really like the last person who rejected me!

Sometimes, you do tend to bring it on yourself Jason. It depends if you can learn from your mistakes.

Yes, honestly, that's right!

Why can't people just give me a chance?

i'm sorry someone you liked rejected you and you feel sad. we've all been there at some point.

don't judge your self harshly by the incident. you are still the same warm, funny, loyal (delete as appropriate) person. it's their loss.

Well, anything I say in this thread is advice I should really be giving to myself, but here it goes anyways...

There's nothing you can do, or should do, to avoid or prevent rejection. If someone rejects you, that's a choice they have to make. To avoid or prevent that rejection, you have to change something about who you are. To change yourself just for the approval of another is not the best course of action to take. If it is a change that you want first for yourself, then for others, that is a different situation. If it is a change solely to make others happy, it isn't a change I would recommend.

Rejection sucks. Always. No matter what. While being free of it would be great, the only way to prevent it is to prevent the possibility of it, to remove yourself from any situation where you could be rejected, but this also removes you from situations where you could be accepted, so this, too, isn't the best choice.

Lastly, don't assume that you were rejected for something you did wrong, or something wrong with you. It could just as easily be something wrong with the other person, with how they view things, or what they value.

I've had this on my mind the whole week, you know!

God, being human is way too complicated. I am sometimes so sure we would be better off were it not for those little electrical impulses called emotions...

Well, if there wasn't a way to do things wrong, we would always be a lot better off!

you should feel good about being rejected.
at least you found out soon enough

Why?

be specific and i will try to show

you cannot force people to do things different to what you want.
but you can change how you deal with it