My father stole potential girlfriends from me

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I feel like my father stole potential girlfriends from me. When my hormones were kicking in and I was upset that I didn't have a girlfriend (I would feel sad about it but get over it after about a week or so.), my father would talk down to me and tell me I shouldn't focus on girls. But what was he doing when I was out of sight? He was cheating on my mother and building a network of mistresses. He didn't encourage me to talk to girls or introduce me to any despite his social connections. When dating sites were becoming popular, he got on them and met tons of women using his status as a doctor and having lots of money as his defining traits while whenever I tried dating sites, they only ended in failure. One time I was about 24 or so, a girl who looked like she was my age came to his house (My parents have been divorced since I was 15) while I was visiting and she sat on the couch with him and embraced him. I had to leave when that happened. Even today, he still has mistresses and is constantly getting dates despite being married again. I don't have a good relationship with him and I wish I could get back at him.

Your dad definitely didn't consider your needs well. He ought to be ashamed of that. I too have had a horrible father who would pursue his own fancies as he liked but couildnt care less about my struggles.

It hurts and it does matter. Our lives would have been easier and better with nicer fathers.

Those aren't potential girlfriends for normal people. Those are gold diggers. They are only interested in money and or power. Some of them just like to break up marriages for sport. After the divorce they lose interest and move on to the next victim. You might say that is the downside to being well off like your father. You attract the attention of gold diggers

I'm guessing your dad has or had a good job because he sounds very confident. My dad was an electrician and you know how sons of a father usually know all kinds of useful info their dad passed on? Not me. He never taught me a thing. Whenever there was an electrical fault in the house he fixed it but wouldn't instruct and just got angry if anyone came near. I went to school with a guy whose father was also an electrician. That guy now works in the design division of the Aston Martin car company. I bet his dad actually showed him a thing or two. Ah well, I can only do the best with what I've been given.

And that guy working at Aston Martin has a beautiful girlfriend. I have never had a long term girlfriend. I haven't given up. It is difficult though.

Yes, your dad is a creepy guy.

Nevertheless, his advice was good, though his delivery is very poor.

I have found true stories of people coming into their own in their thirties or forties. Sometimes even later. Worth bearing in mind.

As I recall, appearance isn't actually the issue. I recall him saying that girls would mistake him for his brother.

Well, maybe it is in the sense that there seems to be this macho competition going on....

My older brother was much more successful than me with the ladies, too.

My brother thought I had no chance in life; he didn't think I'd even learn to drive.

So you see: you can transcend people's expectations.

I just haven't proven to him that you don't need to follow the crowd to have a girlfriend. I've wanted to do that for so long but this year was another failed one.

You still have time....