So I'm Running Away

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As juvenile as it sounds, I'm actually leaving my family (sort of).

I suppose a brief history would be helpful.
My Dad and my two youngest brothers have low functioning AS, which my Mom is really bitter about. Their AS usually manifests problems in terms of things like home maintenance (dishes getting washed, laundry getting done, mail getting sorted, etc.). Today, she found out that our tent was broken(third one this year), so she dragged my brothers home from playing and me out of bed (I have a lung infection and maybe kidney stones) and yelled at my Dad and us for a good thrity minutes, essentially blaming (wait for it) me for her failing marriage, awful, awful children, my Father's shortcomings, our ruined house, and for not trying hard enough to keep things stable around here. Then, to top it off, she threatens to reverse my social security and take my financial aid money for school and tells me she is going to kick me out.

I wouldn't necessarily be this upset, but this happens once a month at least (where she throws the entire situation on me and expects me to take responsibility for the daily tragedies around here and then tells me I'm not allowed to live here anymore). I just feel like I kind of deserve better, you know? I don't think it's fair for her to dump on and emotionally/verbally abuse me just because I'm higher functioning than my Dad or brothers (hence, I understand that I am being beat up on and abused). So I'm calling her gamble and I'm actually leaving.

So I'm asking one of my sisters if I can crash at her house until I can get a job or my own place.
It's just been a really hard time for me.

Sorry for dumping, but I'm just so confused, sad, and angry.
Thanks for listening.

yeah if your old enough, go.
if she loves you she will take you back.
if she doesnt care , she wont, and you will be better off wherever else you are.

you're not alone in that situation, eric.

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Alas, I know that situaction all to well. Twas not long ago I underwent something simular. Hang in there. But if you have a place to go, go! Get out of the situaction if you can under those circumstances. She sounds like she is emotianally abusive.

I am really sorry about what you're going through with your family. I think that you should get out of that situation ASAP before it gets worse. How old are you? You should try to find a job program there. That would really help you out. I hope that you're doing better soon. Dawn

Sounds like a good idea, although I am against younger people running away, its sounds like
you have valid reasons to ditch the family for a while, its not your fault for their shortcomings.

She dragged you out of bed because of a broken tent when you have a lung infection??! !

Definitely get yourself out of there. It's not juvenile of you to protect yourself from abuse like that.

I'm glad you have a sister to go to.

What is your mother's problem?! You are 12..... 12!! !! How can you be responsible for the entire family?

I would leave and not look back. You are lucky to have someone to turn to.

Thanks for the responses and the support guys.

After hashing out the situation, I decided not to go for a couple of reasons:

First, because of my age (17), I can leave on better terms(as much as I disagree with and hate the way I'm treated, I don't want to alienate my family) and under better conditions (I have an opportunity to pursue an out of state job with my older brother and my other sister is moving out of state in the next eight months and told me I could go with her) if I wait it out a little longer.

Second, my sister (the one who I was gonna move in with) says the offer is open if I need to.

Finally, my Mom is really unaware (as scary as that sounds) of what she does when she gets mad and I don't think me excluding myself from her life is completely the right way to go (because even though I could do that and survive, that wouldn't be fair to her). Plus, I have to keep the lines of communication open in case I have to bail my brothers out in the future.

But again, thanks for the support (because it lets me know I'm not going crazy).

Hang in there. We're here if you need to talk.

how did a low functioning autistic get into a marriage with kids in the first place?

Man hope you land on your feet, by the way have you thought about putting your mom in one of those programs where they give you a metal baseball bat and let you beat on old cars for a few hours????

I would run away too. She is mentally abusive and you will be better without your mother. What she does is just ridiculous and extremely self-centered. Maybe she will learn from you leaving her, maybe she than will have remorse. You can't stay in this situation, it will break you, it even already did. Leave them, it is their own foult and your mother doesn't seem to care that much about you, if she did, she would have treated you better. You diserve more than this. Everyone does. Leave that situation.