Xenu wrote:
You are blaming Aspergers for your own laziness and lack of initiative to force yourself to fit in and be likable.
I was going to say something like this myself.
Joe90 wrote:
Yes, I am blaming the AS because it is that what's holding me back. I am nice-natured to people who are nice to me - I am a very nice person, and never mean - what are you talking about?
Now this is laziness in action. I'm sure you are a very nice person (most aspies tend to be - our social awkwardness means we do all we can to keep the friends we
do manage to get) but this is utterly irrelevant.
You are using the Aspergers as an excuse. You can't socialise properly, you can't get a job, you can't find a girl/boyfriend, you can't get your own home, you can't learn to drive, etc, etc, etc. ALL UTTER CRAP. You can do any and all of these things. It won't be easy - hell, it's not easy for the norms either - but it can be done. Proof? I've done them all, and I was diagnosed eighteen years ago. There are many others on these boards that have done some or all of these things too.
Now you can sit there and complain that it's different for you, that you're somehow special and this doesn't apply, and this smacks of so much arrogance I may have to retract the "nice person" comment. Or you can do what so many other aspies here have done - actually make an effort, try doing stuff, accepting that it won't always work the first way you try it and
trying again.
Now quit whinging and either get on with it or shut up.