I don't know whats wrong with me

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Well....the dating apps may become the standard meetup way in the future - which brings out the ape in us - it is currently an alpha-male world where most of the males are seen unattractive to females, while most females are seen attracted to males (Tinder stats: Women only approve 14% of males, while males approve 50%+ of women, on Okc: 80% of males are seen significantly below average by women - those are real numbers, look them up yourself- please don't argue them nor deny them).

Which means....all these theories that some wp males talk about here and the same theories that bother many WP females here? Like the alpha males theories, and the 80/20 thing...etc ? will become true if dating apps take over, because these things are only true in the online dating world actually. So it will be more women failing to find serious long terms, more bitter women, more bitter single men, more sexy male players taking advantage, more single moms...etc lol


Unless.....more females join and the sex ratio becomes close to 1:1** (which is currently far from that now), then maybe (with great doubts) things would become more modern human-like on dating apps/sites.

**Pickiness is much like greed and related to it, some greed is natural but where there's an abundance of resource, the greed may grow abnormally - since there are way more active males on most dating apps today, the greed/pickiness in women will reach abnormal levels; and the male desperation (from not the top ones) for any female response also grew abnormally there - like animals in captivity where there might be an imbalance of resources and sex ratio, it is well known and documented that some species behave differently (even different social structure) in captivity.

I would tend to agree with most of the others, Hurtloam.

You already have a "wall" built up for most guys, because I sense you are focused on some who seem to not respond in kind, but who just might feel like responding in kind, but their shyness precludes this.

Or they'll think your. It interested and move on. I don't wast my time with distant women as it sounds like harassing them

Boo I like your point about greed. I agree with that. People on dating apps are like kids in a sweet shop.

I downloaded tinder to see what it was like and hated it. It just seemed to comodify men. Just photos and photos and photos. No connection.

I guess the alternative to a digital meet market would be to try again to volunteer at various places and wait until somebody comes along [fellow volunteer] that piques your interest, and take your time observing him and how he relates to other women before deciding to try your hand at him.

For a more accurate analogy:
Men are the candies, the commodity, women are the kids trying to grab the tastiest brands first.

This seems to be true on dating sites; it's not always true in real life.

That's my whole point, it is ONLY true on dating sites. In real life bonding happens before a relationship occurs.

But imagine online dating will become the standard medium of meeting up, we would be heading to an ape age - at least mating wise.

It will also lead to pre-screening out all but the most confident/aggressive men - but those might not be the kind you like?

Whereas offline the women are candies for only one night then discarded.

Yes, actually that is my fear.

Maybe in bars - bars environment is similar to Online.

It is actually commonly known that there are more guys than women in the nightlife places, usually they're sausage fests too; like all dating sites.

And basically it's the hottest and the most confident guys (and probably most pride/arrogant) who would be able to approach and attract a woman in one conversation - he has to be too smooth and attractive enough to be able to convince her to bed him from the first one - and such guys would have an abundance of choices......so more prone to greed, more likely to test one after one because they know they can afford it.

Another thought, if the man also had social and communication challenges...

Are you part of any ASD real life groups and have you ever considered dating a man on the spectrum?

Is she desperate enough yet to date men on the spectrum?

We are seriously weird and can't communicate.

Well no it's just out front. People still look for all the requirements they have they just do it discretely offline rather then posting it all for everyone to see online.

What your saying is that guy posting on a kkk forum isn't a racist offline, no he's only like that when he gets online. No people are who they are regardless of if they'll online or not. They just show their true selfs online. Those women with lists of requirements of what makes a real man if met in person will still believe that and still demand that.

That woman who won't date short people isn't going change her mind when meeting a short guy anymore then a guy who won't dat chubbies will date a 300 pound woman he met on a subway.

People are who they are. There's no magical offline world where people aren't judgmental and shallow like they are online.

Ah now, no need to be so harsh. Would you say the same about women on the spectrum?

Life is short, if conventional isn't working, maybe try something different.