1001 Things Not To Do Around NTs...

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I know that it's expected to do this, but saying people's names feels so wrong.

And remembering them is so unusual.

I don't know if this has been mentioned but:

Don't straighten things up.
don't talk monotone.

Do not apologize constantly.

Do not talk about your big problems and expect them to be sympathetic, but at the same time always pretend to be sympathetic to their issues.

Don't talk to adults over 30 about Aspergers, they'll just say "Oh my friend's sister's cousin son has been diagnosed with Aspergers", and then they'll look at you weird when you say you have it.

Don't talk about issues that nobody cares about, like the increasing racism towards white people, your negative opinion on the theory that games make kids into psycho murderers, or the unfair treatment of prisoners on death row. Only talk about issues that are "popular" like animal rights or racism towards black people.

If you like something nobody else likes, like me and Japanese Pop, try not to enjoy it around the company of NTs or they'll just make comments about your weird taste in music.

I'm glad I'm not the only one with "weird taste in music". I actually preffer it when I can't understand what is being sung. (I find being able to comprehend the lyrics distracting) Unfortunately, JPop is loosing that aspect of interest for me, as I gradually learn the language. Still love the different rythems used compared to the almost canned ones used in American music.

Don't ever correct a doctor when they use incorrect terminology.

I corrected a doctor who said her horse had a psychotic reaction to procaine penicillin. I pointed out that science has yet to prove animals can suffer psychosis. The term Vets use is altered mental state. I've been a Vet nurse for almost 20 years and one of my passions is animal behaviour. I should have kept my mouth shut

She got so nasty about it. She said and I quote "psychosis is applicable to human, animal or alien and anything I had to say was ignorant and superfluous to any intelligent person."

Any wonder I have so little respect for doctors.

I don't think this is just about doctors. I have had my head bittin off many times when attempting to correct a woman, regardless of her profession. I think this is more to do with how accepted women feel in our culture, and perhaps receiving correction from another woman, might have felt to her, like the ultimate insult. But again, I could be wrong.

Did I mention that one thing not to do is exist? I myself am a failed abortion.

To me that sounds like you were meant to live.

I just discovered a new one. Don't fish for compliments around your Mom, or she'll accuse you of being a sociopath instead of having Aspergers.

1. If you have to choose, don't speak underly loud before overly loud.
2. Don't make too much eye contact, but don't avoid it altogether, but don't appear to look away at any point, if that makes sense.
3. DON'T PANIC!

Never turn down a cup of coffee at a job interview in the United States.

How you respond to the question, "Would you like a cup of coffee?" is scored accordingly:

5 points = You drink regular coffee, cream and sugar optional.
4 points = You drink decaffeinated coffee.
3 points = You drink tea of any variety.
2 points = You drink a glass of water.
0 points = You refuse to drink anything at all.

If I were at a job interview, I would find it highly distracting to try to manage a cup of liquid and still pay attention to presenting myself well.

The thing is, I've learned that drinking coffee is considered part of presenting yourself well during a job interview.

To pleasantly accept coffee shows that you are a socially friendly creature who responds in the expected way ... therefore, you're a team player.

Decaf coffee earns a slightly lower score because you're just a little bit different and need to request a less common alternative to make you happy ... hmmm, perhaps a bit high maintenance, the interviewer might wonder.

Tea is even more unusual in the United States. In Britain, accepting tea would likely earn you 5 points rather than 3, I imagine.

Water ... You might be considered either a high-maintenance health nut, or someone concealing a health problem who might cost the company money when it comes to health insurance.

Refusing to drink anything at all? You've just turned down an offer of hospitality in an NT environment ... thus you may be seen as anti-social.

Having gone to interviews and either accepted or rejected various liquids myself, I've learned over time to just say "yes" to coffee! Silly as it is, it actually does seem to help with how people judge me during an interview.

I don't get what is so wrong with this one, but from experience it tends to go over like a dead fish.

On a related note don't laugh at an amusing mental picture they will just want to know what is so funny and then proceed not to understand it.