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If it takes you a long time to get to the mall then you could also have your social activities such as dating sites the mall. That way you don't have to make an extra trip.

I do the same thing. It takes to to long time to get to the city for work so after work I stay there for other activities so I don't have to make an extra trip on the train. I hardly ever drive to the city because I don't want to pay the exorbitant $13 for all day parking.

In non-dysfunctional relationships, sex isn't transactional. I have sex with my BF because I want to and it's fun and he does too. I don't need (nor expect) him to buy me stuff, because I can afford to buy my own stuff.

Also, this business of woman-withholds-sex-to-get-chair malarkey assumes that:
1) the only way a man can get sex is from his sex-withholding partner (versus tinder, colleague, random girl at bar, etc).
2) the only way a woman can get that chair is from her man (versus buying it herself, picking up overtime to afford it, asking mom to buy it for her for Xmas, buying a used one on eBay for $2).

You might get a really cheap crappy folding chair on eBay for $2 you aren't going to get a recliner for less then 50 and if you want new looking at 150 up and if you want matching couch set even more.

So you've never in your whole life ever denied sex when your so didn't do something you wanted or did something you disliked? Even if you say you didn't, plenty of women do.

I wish I had known that earlier. I think one of the reasons why that girl dumped me was because I tried to trade sex for paying for medical bills. I know that sounds bad. I just wanted to give her the money but then she said she had to pay her back. I know she can't afford to pay me the money so I said she can just pay me back with sex instead. She said she didn't want to and I said that was fine. The she said we're "Too different from each other". I think I offended her.Not true. I don't know about ebay but I'm now sitting in a nice recliner I bought from the opshop for $10.

even if most women are as bad as you claim, sly, you only need one to be different. she probably exists. i learned this when i related to my psychiatrist that my fiance claimed that 80% of guys were as sexist as he was. the good shrink pointed out that the other 20% would give me plenty to choose my one from. and i have found him. he's a feminist and a total sweetheart.

and i reiterate what i said before. as a social worker, i knew dozens of people on disability who were paired up. since you don't have a drop-in center or disability support group where you are, such folks may be hard to find, but they exist.

The one who aren't are wanted by most men not just poor worthless men. They'll more competed over then the other women.

I'm too middle ground into too many things that it seems for most people can't be grouped together.

I'm pro gun but non violent, non conservative,non hunting. Most gun people are conservative and hunt especially women who are into guns. They'll the country girls who want guys who hunt, muddling, wear cowboy boots and drive big expensive trucks. I don't hunt or fish any such activity that takes life from poor animals, also their disgusting since I'm a germaphobe, touching worms and fish is out. Definitely not skinning and gutting some animal

I'm into video games and history, Im not left nor right. I'm diverse on different issues. Most women around here are liberal which means anti gun, extreme pro abortion, supporting illegal immigrants. Which is funny that they support breaking some laws and think passing new laws will get ride of guns . Whatever but I don't want to fight all the time with a gf, nor will they consider me.

Any girl needs to be pro gun our at least ok with them and open to trying shooting, into or OK with video games, nerdy(scifi,cartoons,anime), not super conservative or liberal. Then they have to accept I'm not a real man because I don't make lots of money or have a car or own my own place.

Doesn't seem like such a girl exists. A middle ground into guns and nerdy stuff, non superficial, who isn't already taken. Again most guys want s girl like that, at least most guys around here. However most women I've seen are either far left or far right. Liberals won't like that I'm a gun owner and conservatives won't like that I'm on ssi and support welfare and education, abortion etc. guess one could say I'd probably be considered liberal if not for being pro gun and a prepper.

i'm a liberal who likes to target shoot and would still own a gun if i'd not sold it under doctor's advice while i was suicidally depressed. lots of liberals, like you, own guns. i like the way you think about the issues. and just because two people disagree on issues, doesn't mean they argue all the time. james carville and his wife are big political operatives for opposite sides of the aisle. i think your major obstacle to finding someone is that you think you'll never find someone. go ahead and say, "hi," to the girls you're attracted to, even though you think your looks are in your way. looks are very subjective and almost no one likes their looks. nothing ventured, nothing gained.

I've absolutely declined sex when i was mad at my boyfriend and he's declined sex when he's annoyed at me. Or exhausted. Or not in the mood. I'm entitled to do so. He's entitled to do so. Neither of us is "withholding" sex as a bargaining chip. That's lunacy. Not feeling like having sex on a particular day/week doesn't make someone's sex life transactional.

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Your example on the cost of chairs makes no sense. If a woman can't afford a $150 chair or fancy living room set she has options besides the (deranged) with old sex to get hubby to buy it for her - like cheap ones from Goodwill. What man puts up with a (deranged) no sex until expensive sofa wife? Given 50% divorce rate, prevalence of affairs, Tinder, etc.

May the worst thing that ever happens to any woman that she furnish her living room with ugly, mismatched stuff from Goodwill, garage sales, etc. (My grad school living room was furnished for $60 at goodwill. It was mostly orange and hideous but very comfy).

Your view of relationships is so unhealthy and warped it's scary!

cathylynn, Sly's looks aren't in the way. We've seen pictures of him and he's just a normal looking young man. One thing in his favour is his height. He's over 6 feet tall and broad in the shoulders.

This is quite an interesting paradox. Everyone deserves love yet no one has a right to a partner. I'm not sure how to solve this paradox.

It could be your MAF/MAP sensor on they way out.

That's not what many women told me when I messaged them. They said I was unattractive.

Yes but it's my word against there's. Are you going to believe mean women who want to hurt you or are you going to believe me?

Your face looks ok too. You're kind of young looking. That could work to your advantage. It means you could get some cute 19 year old and have one of those cute teenaged relationships with her.

Then f*** em. That's why I highly recommend doing online dating in small doses. What doesn't kill you might make you stronger, but it can also grind you into dust. A large portion of women (and men) online have a hatred on for the opposite sex and this is one such example.



Wow, that is about the sleaziest thing I have ever heard. What's wrong with you? You sound like you have a prostitute not a relationship. You THINK you offended her? Are you that %#$% dense? I try to be supportive in the Haven but it's hard to be supportive when you make a statement like that.

Please don't swear...

GiantHockeyFan. I'm not trying to run a prostitution racket. What happened was the girl, who gets paid about $2 per hour, tried to pay me back the few hundred I gave her for her hospital stay. I didn't like her paying me back that money because it would be virtually impossible to earn it at $2 per hour. She said she was doing a lot of overtime to get the money and she said she had to pay me back even after I said it was a gift.

I was worried she would work herself into an early grave. That money was a gift because before she was seriously ill. She needed medical treatment. Afterwards I didn't want her to pay me back so I was saying anything to get her to not pay me back. So I suggested she pay me back in other ways.

Not very tasteful I realize but I didn't want to accept her money yet she already had my bank details to send the money. What little money she has should go to supporting herself. Last night I apologized to her and she implied that she may still want to be with me again. I will take it slow.