I feel hopeless and wann just stop living.

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Sly, you are trying to find whatever thing you can to make your life happy, and as a result you fail, and it doesn't make you happy.

Let me tell you the things that will result in you living an unhappy life if you focus at whatever the cost to make them succeed: Having company, having a family, living independently, how we are labeled, having the dream job, getting rich, getting famous, and etc.

When we rely our happiness on those things, we end up hurting ourselves in the end, because we compare ourselves to what the majority. Sly, when you get older you have less friends. Some people when they get old enough only have their children and parents as company.

Sly stop looking at people for once. Let yourself be wrong and move on with being wrong.

you can't find happiness on the outside anywhere, any that you think you find is not really a warm fuzzie but more like a cold pricklie which only superficially resembles happiness. you can't chase after it either as it will always outrun you. no single human has the power to make you happier than you are, only you yourself have that power over yourself. no, you must let happiness find you, wherever you are at, it has that capability, if one doesn't chase it away.

Come on, Sly.

Please do read this good advice above.

he has the aspie hangup about fairness, he feels life has been unfair to him, in that he sees everybody else BUT himself with life success. he has the very common [among aspie males] tendency to be oblivious to those who score beneath himself. I am the same way. i don't know what anybody could have said to me to allay my chronic upset, and i fear i similarly lack the properly comforting words for sly. "just hang in there" seems awfully inadequate when one feels one is already hanging by a thread.

this little ditty continues to give me comfort, decades after first hearing Spock [actor Leonard Nimoy] speak it on a record in my collection-

DESIDERATA
Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world in full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is: many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Often attributed as "Found in Old Saint Paul's Church, Baltimore: Dated 1692."
Actually, Desiderata was written in 1927 by an obscure Indiana lawyer and poet named Max Ehrmann. Sources include: The Washington Post, November 27, 1977.

most of us don't rate cushy $100k+ office jobs, that is for a fortunate cognitive elite and just plain lucky people. I never had more than one gun [other than my own ], that I inherited from DOD. for us aspie males, life is often lonely sure enough, but it doesn't have to, by dint of loneliness, be pointless. you find yourself a point you can call your own, and make it your life. as Nietzsche said, "He who has a WHY to live for can bear almost any how."