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I don't know if this is the right place for this. I don't really even know why I want people to know about it, but I gave in and banged my head on something today. I'm just too stressed out with meeting even the most basic of necessities and couldn't handle it anymore. I emitted a blood-curdling scream into a pillow, which I thought would get rid of the tension, but right after I took a breath and came out of the bathroom I grabbed the outcropping wall-beam that was in front of me and slammed my head into it.

I told myself a few years ago I wasn't going to participate in head-banging any more but this was such an impulsive thing I didn't even think about what I was doing.

I managed to calm myself down a little and then called my fiance in to let him know what happened and ask him to keep an eye on me, and he brought me some water and ibuprofen (My head and my throat hurt ).

Same here so much going on with health and relation ships work Im cracking. Getting really depressed and don't feel up to faking being"normal". Snapped at my boss twice this week for asking obvious question. Two weeks till vacation and I am going out in the woods no noise or people for four days hope it help me pull it back together, keep me from doing some thing stupid.

To late for that!

mrsjohnny can I ask what your avatar is?

Its the only picture of supposed brain activity that was under the size requirement of the site that I could find.

Hi,

I’ve read some on the experiences in this thread and I recognise my own pain and difficulties in many of them. I have spent two decades of my life with anxiety, eye contact problems, social ineptness that provoked conflicts (took a long time to see my part in it), fear of public speaking etc that has delayed my development/career in both personal as well as professional life. Most of the time and carried through by sheer willpower. As many of you, I used alcohol in my younger years, to overcome my inhibition. Fortunately, I don’t have the genetic/psychological make up to get stuck in it, and today I drink very little.

Now for the hope and healing part. Due to the perseverance and the research of a person very close to me, as well as efforts of my own, my quality of life has increased enormously the last years. My anxiety is gone, the eye contact problem is negligible and I have conquered my public speaking fear. My social ineptness is also very much improved, although I still get tired quite fast with a lot of people around me. Still, with a strategy to get regular breaks, I perform well. I’d define myself to be in a state, where I can pass for an NT (which I only care about at work), but retain the positive sides of being an Aspie.

If you’re interested in how I achieved this, let me know. I think it will work for most of you, but I don’t know. There’s no great secret. Most of the research is already scattered across the web, but perhaps the combination is not too common.

Well lets put it that way. I know that I have a lot of positive properties as many of us have, I guess. They are

1) Extreme logic
2) Honest moral
3) Loyalty
4) Energy like hell
5) Never give up sort of thinking, even if it hits you very hard
5) Extreme focusing
6) Deeper understanding
7) Creativity
Connect many different things into one
9) Heavy thinking capability
10) Trial and error learning of things that nobody would even think of
11) Believe in the positive of others

These work out when you are in a good mood.

Just one has to f*****g fight the crazy mind states that can appear.
And do nothing stupid.
And feel being accepted into the NT based world.
Learn to understand things that nobody will explain to you

Man kan ikke flykte från sin egen virkelighet,
this one I forgot almost and discovered it again

Let's see how many find out what this is actually about...


Well from outside perspective it looks quite fine what I have acchieved.
university degree and soon doctoral degree, hopefully.
That wasn't easy but still

I personally think this website has helped me a lot to understand the problems that we are in.
Would be nice to see more positive things, I agree
But even more interesting would be howtos that can be edited (wiki type)
Quite many posts are much too long to dig out the important information!

^
onks, all of this resonates for me - thanks for posting. Have you figured out how to stay out of the crazy or confusing state of mind? I haven't, and it seems to be the key I'm searching for.

IMHO, a great idea.
....Is this correct? > One can not escape their own reality. (the 'från' did not translate)

I guess cognitive therapy or something like that could maybe help to get some more control over it.
Otherwise drugs (medicine). Alcohol maybe. Kill stress. Think about something else.
Get other things in order. See friends. Smoke. Watch TV. Freak out
Go to silent places. Diving. Pressure. Hold breath for 1 or 2 min.
Little bit same for about everything
Paranoia belong a little to the same category

Realize it before its too late (and you are mad) and press the Reset button
and then hope that it doesn't boot into that same s**t thing again

Well actually, those don't help when you are in there, high up somewhere in the sky, not able to think clearly
Best is anyway to do nothing stupid

Mostly this has been a small thing for me. But when you are desperate and depressed and confused about everything because you know
that you are aspie, but don't (yet) understand what that means and makes to you. First a relief but than it kicks in hard, really hard
(and I write all the time "than" instead of "then" )

[/quote] ....Is this correct? > One can not escape their own reality. (the 'från' did not translate)[/quote]
This is some great music from Ugress. I almost forgot that I have heard it some time
And it fitted in well. You cannot flee from your own reality

Det var väl lite bland-språk, från är svensk. "Fra" borde det har varit på norska.
Husker ikke. Minskar inte. (First is Norwegian, second Swedish)
Jeg er ikke norsk, heller svensk eller svenskspråklig, men lever i Finland, så blev det lite mix när jag flytta från Norge hit


Wait what was this post again?

http://www.wrongplanet.net/allarticles.html

howtos. But you cannot edit them. aspie wiki?

I hope anyone/everyone is able to find some serenity within one's life even if there is a great amount of obstacles to surmount.. I'll admit that I'm not the greatest when it comes to putting things into but, I hope this is seen as being meaningful?

My life isn't too crazy, but my mind takes me places I don't want to go. I have this desire to sit and stew in uncomfortable thoughts. Depression, etc. but I want to keep this at least somewhat less depressive than it really is. Basically, I'm looking for people to talk with. I'll let you reply to me, that way it's your choice to talk, not mine. I've made the first contact before, but I think they felt obligated to reply. If you do respond, could you please send a PM? I often go MIA from this forum, but if I get a PM, my email will let me know.

See my post, "Wanting to be loved". I just want some people to just give me a chance in knowing them.... and me.

I think the best remedy for Hope and Healing is that we know we are moving forward and that in the future all things will come up roses for us.However I also feel that if we associate happiness with anyone or anything,then we don't know true happiness.I've felt that happiness so many times.I remind myself that when I'm feeling depressed,like now.We don't see the light and beauty that is in each moment.So smell the moment and do so!

Yeah.... all I want is hope for myself.

I do sincerely hope that at some point in my life I'll be able to find friendship that won't go astray due to mis-understandings or other variables.. This is the extent of what I feel I could say without being embarrassing..