1001 Things Not To Do Around NTs...

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76. Don't try to imitate their behavior.

I've learned this the hard way. If you do, everyone in the room will stop talking and start staring at you.

Don't tell your boss they're behaving like a toddler.

If I might add, try to talk the way they do. If you say something that makes sense to you but doesn't to them, then they'll label you as a geek or nerd faster than you can say ham and eggs.

Don't say you dislike something they did. If they went on a holiday, tell them that's nice. If they haven't been on a holiday, tell them how great staying at home is. If they are studying medicines, tell them it's interesting. If they're studying art, tell them it's fascinating. If they work at a supermarket, which isn't considered a great job, ask them some questions, to find out what's positive about it. Like, ask them if they live nearby it, or if they have friendly co-workers. Whatever you're talking about, if it's about them, always point out the positive, or make up something positive if you can't find it anywhere. They'll like you for it.

And just don't correct them overall... they'll be insulted, feel stupid, maybe think you're intentionally trying to make them feel stupid, or that you're showing off your intelligence, which is a bad thing as well.

77. When they ask you what time it is, don't tell them the exact time. They want it rounded to the nearest increment of five minutes.


I have no idea why this is, but maybe it's something that only happens in my part of the country.

If someone asks me what time it is, and my watch says it's 11:58, what's so bad about looking at my watch and saying it's 11:58? Why do I have to tell them it's 12:00?? Everyone I know gets annoyed by time that doesn't end in 0 or 5.

I always hear "Why do you have to be so exact?" I'm tired of getting asked why I "have to be so exact."

I don't see why I should have to look at my watch and think "OK, this person wants to know what time it is, but they want it rounded to the nearest increment of five minutes, so it's 11:58 right now, and that's closer to 12:00, than 11:55, so I'll tell them it's 12:00 when it really isn't.". That's too much work.

Stay focused on the subject at hand, dont verbalize where your mind wanders off to.

Put on a fake, happy exterior.

Dont intepret people too literally.

Don't daydream in the middle of a conversation. do it in your own time.

Don't act on your daydreams, fantasies or conserverations in public, or around anyone who doesn't know you well enough. Things may turn ugly.

Sorry if this is interrupting into the topic, but it DOES have to do with how I've come to feel about NT's esp. in the past week or so. Honestly, they're not bad people. The only ones who are are the ones who are football jocks, stereotypical cheerleaders, people who do stupid things like bring knives to school, etc. Even (some) smokers and drinkers aren't bad, if that's the worst behavior they engage themselves in (and it doesn't cause them to do anything worse in the process). I love the people I meet in my poetry/writing classes and I'm the only Aspie besides this guy named Shine (well I SUSPECT he's an Aspie, anyway...) that I've encountered in such classes (Shine has been in two of them). Shine is a nice guy and he can be funny, but honestly, I prefer the NT people in my poetry/writing classes 'cuz they're nicer and funnier and, generally speaking, more interesting. Please don't take this the wrong way - my best friends are still Aspies (except Peter, but his "comfort zone" when it comes to friends is Aspies). I'm trying to say that the people on here shouldn't assume all NT's are bad, bothersome, etc. Your mother (or father) probably is NT, too, and (some of) you probably get along pretty well with him/her, so please keep this in mind if you meet an NT. My mom is NT, and she is generally more reasonable and pleasant than my (unofficially diagnosed) Aspie dad. Again, no prejudice against Aspies intended, but please let go of your ideas that "all NT's are bad", the reason "they" probably assume the things they do about "us" is the fact that some (but very few, to my knowledge) Aspies are prone to meltdowns and anger and interrupting people at the wrong time. Other times, what they don't like about us really IS unfair, like our various physical quirks, but that doesn't make NT's bad PEOPLE. Let's all try taking a more friendly, Zen approach to the way we view people. If you have bias against someone, make sure the one you're against really IS stupid (don't just assume this just because their mind doesn't function the way yours does).

I'm sorry if this rant...er...I mean post has bored, agitated, bothered any of you, etc. If it has, either I'll delete it or you can just pretend it's not there the next time you go on WP

GriffinGuitar - you should try to stop judging people so much. How is someone bad just because they drink and smoke? All you can rationally say from those facts (that they smoke and/or drink) are they take risks with their health, that is all though. There are certain things you can infer such as class, social status or why (psychological reasons) they might take risks with their health but they are tenuous at best.

No such thing as 'bad people', people are just people sometimes they do bad things and sometimes they do good things and other times they're doing the stuff in between.

something u should never do around anyone
share too much information

(for example there was a woman on facebook that posted 5 updates about getting her wedding ring resized, bit unnecessary)

Don't NOT laugh at a joke. Always laugh at their jokes, no matter how stupid, incoherent, or un-funny the joke is. If you stay quiet, you hurt their fragile egos.

Don't leave the room that everyone has gathered in. It's unacceptable to NOT want to be in the center of all the social activity.

Never, ever, ask them "Why?" That very word gets their blood a-boilin'!

Never tell them how much and where patterns in the wall repeat. I've done that before.