This issue still perplexes me. Seriously. Can we discuss it?

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The solutions I prefer is usually internal. Something more abstract, intangible, and more permanent. Yet I cannot share them or explain them well because it's too vague. It's like something had been figured out and clicked on how to take it than, well, 'protected', 'coated by', etc.
Because I don't like maintenance like how I don't like needs. Partially because I'm still working on my palette, and partially because regimen like routine isn't my thing.
I'm the kind who chooses to learn how the flow works like how to take chaotic stimuli, how to handle negative emotions, how to do whatever in real time, how NOT to have triggers, how to shift gears intuitively, how to adapt -- as opposed to following a script like what to eat or how many hours to workout, what to say or do appropriately, or I dare say how to avoid triggers or get reminders, or just how to cope in general.
That's why I rarely take advice here. But I'd keep references just in case.


But this topic had nothing to do with my opinions of your posts, how you post, or what I prefer to see. I just can't help but say it nonetheless. And some would do better to advice you how to post better.
This topic has something to do with pessimistic members who chooses to stay with the negative state they are living and complaining about, yes?

While some posters had already told you why they couldn't or wouldn't immediately try, I might as well give something on my mind.
I do confess, that sometimes, sure, I wanna help. Except, my life isn't like theirs. It works with me, but it is never guaranteed if it works with others. My solutions are too vague and abstract to be understood or explained. I suck at words to articulate that. I usually take account that everyone is vastly different to the point of absurdity.
Sure, everyone has their choice. So I'd take account of that -- even if it means hurting themselves further. And no, I don't advice that to others -- that's my own hypocrisy there and you wanna help others.

Eager as you are to help, confused why would they do that when you gave an option to them?
Maybe for the same reason as I do -- I prefer something else. Maybe even if it backfires me as long as it makes sense or if I'm in a mood to.
Maybe it's from what others posted -- circumstances, money, time, depression, and other ASD related issues of not trying anything new, not aiming for change, being stuck, etc.
Or, a solution that you wrote makes sense or seem right to them -- kinda why some do ask you, some do exchange knowledge with you. And why people mistook you for a snakeoil salesman. Ah, the power of words and it's impressions. They're not my thing.



On the side note, sure, why not?
Certain sweets screws my short term memory. Caffeine DOES gave me a very minor like tremor and a screwed up working memory. Certain brands of non-powdered creamy milk made my executive functioning better overall. That's practically ALL I tried and known about consumables, and how it affects me.
The rest is just focus, stimming, special interests, having my own space, hormones and emotions, temperatures, mind states, and my moods. I don't like to depend on and I don't depend on routines and predictability -- but it does makes everything easier and boring, and that's it really.

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i would be more easily able to change my diet if i lived by myself and did all my grocery shopping, which i don't. i don't have as much control as to what ends up in my fridge as perhaps you do. still i've learned to manage my symptoms and "normalize" myself through other means.


i also think this place isn't a totally accurate representation of the entire ASD community.... for one there is a glaring lack of hispanics. clearly those without internet access are also not represented....if we were talking about ASD people in anglo countries only, then it would be more thorough maybe.

Guilty. Sorry about that.

I was using Skimming and Scanning, instead of reading complete because I tend to Subvocalize when I read, out of habit (started as a kid to help myself learn how to imitate proper cadence and pitch after having stories read to me, I would go back and do my best to recreate the method and then try to apply that to socializing, it was actually very successful) so it takes me a long time to read anything if I don't focus myself out of Subvocalization. It's almost impossible when I'm reading something like this, a post on a forum or website.

I've known enough of those people, well enough, that they've admitted to those behaviors and mentalities. It's always a little defeating to know someone won't even try to make a positive change in their life.

It’s also because this particular person has good qualities, which every potential lover could admire.

The trouble is: he tends to catastrophize things, and otherwise take negative thoughts to extremes—to a ridiculous extent. And he gets bogged down in statistics. And he make general statements which are not based upon actual experience.

But....he always has a hug for anyone who needs it

if someone wants attention, I will give them attention, it's the least I can do.

Hi Mr. Goldfish21,
Wow such an inspiring post. My God I wish there were more people on this wonderful earth that had the same thoughts/beliefs.
I have spent quite a few years working with people who identify as having a 'mental illness.'
OK so sure they may have a mental illness, but is it wise to focus on the illness alone?
In my opinion the answer has to be a BIG NO.
However they just go on and on and on and on. If you get my drift.
I live with ASD (high functioning autism) I only found out 3 years ago at the young age of 55 and hence forth my life made so much more sense.
I have experienced so much in my life as I am sure you have also.

Much love.

Bob

Hi Goldfish21,
Wow such an inspiring post. My God I wish there were more people on this wonderful earth that had the same thoughts/beliefs.
I have spent quite a few years working with people who identify as having a 'mental illness.'
OK so sure they may have a mental illness, but is it wise to focus on the illness alone?
In my opinion the answer has to be a BIG NO.
However they just go on and on and on and on. If you get my drift.
I live with ASD (high functioning autism) I only found out 3 years ago at the young age of 55 and hence forth my life made so much more sense.
I have experienced so much in my life as I am sure you have also.

Much love.

Bob

the poor thing can't get past some issues. it is like he put all his hopes and wishes into one particular life path to the extent of other equally valid life paths, and won't consider letting himself be happy with any other.