The Gender discussions on L&D are harming me

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This sure has gotten ugly, as was to be expected. Maybe I'll check out that Aspies Central website.

Sly, I would like to lay down some truth to you. Contrary to what positive thinking folks say your control over your destiny is miniscule. It is others who make the rules including employers. It is others who guard all the doors and have all the keys. Truth is competition has what is called winners and losers and in spite of our cultish society that says anyone and everyone can be a winner reality disproves this as so. For every winner that exists there are others who must come in 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, and those who lose who come behind him. There are those who claim that if you lose then it is your fault you lose as in you lack personal responsibility. Personal responsibility assumes one causes one's actions that led to one's circumstances but if we live in a capitalistic society that sees competition as a virture and having winners and losers as a virtue then I ask these positivists how can personal responsibility hold up in a world with limits?

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Truth is, a number of those like yourself has been duped and one wonders why we have things like the Tide Pod Challenge.

There are things in life we have no control of. There are not always happy endings, and not everyone will always come out on top.

I will never be a professional NBA player no matter how much I try...the NBA doesn't allow females, I'm short, and I'm slow. I will never win the Boston marathon. I don't have the physiology to jog and have never been able to jog for more than 15 minutes despite proper training.

While not impossible, I doubt I will ever be a billionaire for a variety of reasons, many unfair. For example it's much more difficult for a female to get sufficient funding for a business idea, be taken seriously, be seen as competent in a male dominated industry, and not be taken advantage of.

But that doesn't mean we have no control over our lives or that the control we have is always miniscule.

What often stops people from making changes to their lives however is not lack of external opportunities, but lack of internal resources. For example if somebody is suffering from profound depression, melancholy, or trauma, they're going to have a hard time finding the energy to take advantage of the external opportunities available to them.