Hi, I think the first thing to do is to try and restrain yourself in any way possible (which you seemingly did do) or release the anger in harmless ways (maybe deleting a favourite character is not the most harmless way to do it because you're harming yourself by doing that, maybe think about other possible mechanisms, ranting about it on The Haven is actually quite a good one). If you can't restrain yourself and you find yourself lashing out, the best thing to do is to call the person later and tell them how sorry you are, and that you understand they did what they did with good intentions.
Self discipline and self control is hard, and it is harder for some people than others (perhaps you are somebody who finds it harder) but the fact that you're attempting to do it is admirable on your part. All people have to deal with things other people do that cause them frustration, and you have to learn as you grow how to tolerate it. Sometimes it can be harder for people with AS simply because most people don't understand the things that cause us frustration, and thus do them unknowingly and probably more often, but we need to match that environmental pressure with greater self-discipline in order to function well in society. It's nobody's fault, but we have to develop coping mechanisms to deal with our circumstances.
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01 Apr 2011, 11:59 pm
