Another "I'm a basket case" post....

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I will tell you that crying helps. It does get your frustrations out. Some people don't want others to cry. That is a bunch of bologna. Just doing nothing won't help, so why not take action.

Serissa, Not to invalidate your feelings but it's obvious from your posts that you're very competent and the farthest thing from a basket case that I've ever seen. So you're upset. I believe that we (women) tend to fixate on our size and weight. It does feel better to be skinny but much more important is who we are and what we do. Try to derive your self image from that and let the weight thing become a side issue. (I've seen your pics, you look great, sorry) I'm afraid weight is a constant battle for some of us and learning to deal with it really sucks. I have not given up, but I've tried to look on the bright side.

I'm more volumptous now that I'm 30 lbs. over my ideal weight. I actually have boobs now! That's a bonus.

I hope this isn't too "Pollyanna".

This post is 100% dieting-advice free

I can relate. I did Weight Watchers. I got down to my goal in 2004, and then some. I think I look my best slightly underweight, but that's just my personal opinion. Ribs are just as attractive on me as they are on a grill.

Then I got off track, but I got back on.

Now.....I can't get a pound off to save my life. I have NO idea what I'm doing wrong. Maybe it's work stress, but WW just does not work for me anymore. I take Xanax as needed, which is rarely, but that shouldn't have made me blow up like the Hindenburg and stay that way. I started having a lot of doctor's appoinments late last year (loooong story...) and I saw a really ugly number on the scale. So I decided to bust my @$$, diet, exercise, the whole bit, and I did, but a month later, I saw the same ugly number on another doctor's scale. WTF? That sort of slaving away would have AT LEAST lost me 5 pounds in 2004. I'm not overweight, but I'm just chubby enough to be annoyed by it. Especially after being thin enough to finally enjoy myself after 12 years of fatness, and then having it yanked away from me.

no advice, except ...

i advise you to have all these ((((((hugs))))))

been there, done that, and it's s**t. just keep going, hon.

Vivi

Where did weight come from?

You all brought up weight, and I was a little surprised at that. Why?

Serrissa,

When you say you need a talent you don't have to succeed in Art, your omission to define 'talent' makes me think you could be creating a problem which may not be there.

If you are referring to technical drawing skill, I symapthise and empathise entirely; it is one of those inherent abilities that seems to dog anyone who was not born with it. But then, technical skill is only important in the realisation of your own style of artwork, and that is a completely personal thing. So my advice would be to culture your own style, focus on things you like to draw, think about what you like about them that needs visually expressing, and then the fine drawing will come naturally.

If my own experience is worth anything, my art teacher last year tipped me to be a grade A student, but my exam piece, while showing all the fineries of colour etc, depicted something dull and unoriginal (a performer suspended above a circus). In other words I just couldn't put my strengths together to make a work of art, and so I got a C!
So the key thing is, be your creative self.

Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't read the post at first, but I did now. Everything is fine. Please don't worry.

I wholeheartedly apologize!

I like you, and from now on, I will not reply to any posts you make in this forum without actually reading them first.