Aspergers SUCKS.

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I'm not sure earnings really has anything to do with aspergers. I make a heck of allot more then that.

I think this thread just goes to show that all Aspies are different. What one struggles with may be second nature to another and vice versa. You can't fit us into stereotypes.

A bunch of kids came up to me, and told me to my face that I'm a little f**k. I just walked away, because I couldn't say anything.

A f*****g hate the world I live in. I try to be social, and nice, but people always think I'm weird, or a stalker, or some other person steals their attention, and every minute I almost feel happy, I'm constantly reminded that I AM alone. **** aspergers, and **** the world.

I can relate to some degree man. I won't waste your time with a long post but I will say its a rough road but it has its bright spots. It's hard but if people treat you like s**t ignore them, if they persist don't take s**t from them do whatever you have to do. Best advice I've ever gotten.

I can relate. At times having AS is good because we know how to cut through BS and get to the points. Other times it sucks because we just don't get the little body languge and all that. I wish at times I could turn on and off my AS. But I do feel like for the most part it is a curse. Because no matter how hard I try and work on my social skills, atitude being social and all that, I miss things and come off as "different" and "off" and people just sense there is something wrong with me and don't want to get to know me or go out with me.

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Well, yeah. Were I not autistic at least 50% of the bad things in my life would not have happened. I mean, do we have another reason why proportionally so many people on this forum suffer so much. Some bizarre coincidence that they keep failing? Or that they have continually misjudged people and situation? And have sensory issues causing them torture? Highly rigid thought processes? ect.

Blaming autism is a good move because that's what caused it. This isn't to suggest there is no hope but certainly identifying what is causing the problem is the best step to seeing if change is possible.

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I've been said to have an innately positive attitude about life (which, IMO, I do ) and of the two parents I have, the NON-Aspie parent I have seems to have more support for me (OK, well the Aspie parent I have does too, but he doesn't show it as much and tends to have a more negative attitude about life, and, between my mom and my dad, it's the latter who tends to view my Asperger's as a "burden" - well, sometimes). Being that I have a non-Aspie parent who LOVES me, I feel very empowered and inspired. Plus, NT's seem to really like me (at least the ones that aren't jerks, lol there's more "nice" NT's than some of you might think there are ) So that also helps. And I do think that my OCD can be used for good OR bad, even though it's a "disorder" - for instance, it's driven me enough to have an insatiable passion for linguistics and music!!

For all the upsides Asperger's has for me, though, there ARE downsides. The two main ones are that I won't be able to drive (but this more due to I problem I have with my peripheral vision, not Asperger's), and that Aspie girls, esp. IRL (as opposed to online), are RARE!! This kinda lowers the odds of me having a girlfriend, and I really want one Oh yeah, there IS a THIRD downside to Asperger's for me, and that is that I'm into the arts and humanities, and no other Aspie I know of (at least those that are in and/or near my area) is into these things (and if they are, they seem WAY more into technical, left-brained, "nerdy" activities like video games, fantasy/sci-fi, anime, etc.) Other downsides include how I don't notice some of the tics/bad habits I have (this one STILL baffles me...), and how I have the emotional maturity of a little kid But everything else about Asperger's is really no big deal to me. I have a VERY kind, loving, and supporting mother who will make SURE that I will one day (soon) be able to live independently. And as for my clumsiness in certain situations? Well, that's really more just human nature than it is Asperger's - some people might view it as the latter, but not me! The Aspies I know IRL are some of the funniest, most loyal people I've ever MET, despite the fact that our only common ground, typically, is humor. So I feel honored to be in their company (though I would like to one day find a group of "arty Aspies" in my area, then my life will be complete, AND I WILL RULE THE WORLD!!...Ummm...well...not really. But you get the picture, right? )

Please don't get me wrong, though. I TOTALLY understand where people are coming from when they say their life sucks "because of Asperger's". A word of advice to these people, though: just believe in yourself and you'll feel better. I know it sounds really corny, lol , but it usually works for me, and it's worked for others, too. You might not get EXACTLY what you want by simply "believing in yourself", but at least you'll have a more positive outlook on life. If you like yourself enough, you won't CARE what others think of you (and believe me, I KNOW this is a HARD one to let go of, so take your time if you're gonna use this method). Therapy might be a good suggestion for those Aspies (and NT's) with low self-esteem problems. I kinda have 'em myself, actually, despite what it may sound like, but I'm getting better at handling them, and I DEFINITELY find my life is better when my spirits are higher!! Hope that helps (though I'm also smart and aware enough to understand that not all methods of help work for the same people, so I hope you don't take everything else I've said in this post the wrong way).

Mmhmm.

Well, what else can I say. Aspergers sucks. It's nothing but a curse and setback in life, and it's pointless to try and reason otherwise.

Just to clarify, I wasn't being sarcastic with my above post, it meant what I said literally. Since at least 50% of the bad things in my life would not have happened were not autistic, blaming AS is certainly is justified. I'm all the way with you on blaming it and recognising that simply being positive will not take away the suffering you feel.

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But you forget, everyone on the planet has a fault, be it a diagnosed one or not. Ive noticed that blaming something else for your problems is moot. Does AS make your life difficult, yes, but does it keep you from trying and improving . . . no. As for talent, thinking you're going to be good at something you like right off the bat is arrogant to the point of making things worse. People with a natural talent in something still have to practice and research their interest to stay on top of it. As for a social life, try observing instead of interacting for a while. Coming up to someone and saying "nine times nine is 81" or "You're really big/fat" is not considered socially acceptable. Be defensive, let someone start the conversation, dont try to start it yourself (I often fail at starting one because i dont know what to talk about). Are there aspects of AS I like, yes . . . I love being able to look at a situation differently, and solve it in a different way. The condition is different for all of us. For me, its in visual analysis and problem solving. All gifts come with a price, thats the way of the world . . . find what gift you got with it (be positive and practical about it) and develop those associated skills. Also, dont hold high expectations for your life unless YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY WILLING TO MAKE IT HAPPEN. Sometimes you have to wait . . . hell, im 29, single, and low income, but im doing what i can so i will be independent of my parents someday (was living alone for 4-5 years prior to having moved back in with them). If you're in high school still, relax . . . the teenage years sucked for all of us.

how in the world are you making more than $50,000 a year, when you are obviously not the best speller. are u sure you're not an NT? what do you do?

If you're an engineer, or any other kind of scientist, your research means more than your spelling.

Not in the UK. And even in academia, if you can't schmooze the right people, in the right way for further funding, you will get nowhere. This is biosciences though, maybe engineering or other sciences may find spelling optional.

And to the OP, yes, at times I also really hate AS, I see the things other people take for granted that are impossible for me and it hurts. And if other posters NEVER have these feelings, good for you, but this is the haven, please don't give the OP a bashing because YOU don't ever feel like that. Count your blessings it doesn't affect you this way instead, but some of us do struggle with this.

Oddly, a lot of the ones that cant spell use vocal - written translation software, then use a spell checker (had a teacher use this method, not because he couldnt spell, but because he was so high energy, typing would slow him down ).

Yes my spelling is atrocious. (i looked that one up for you:) I do apologize, I realize many people here have a thing against poor spelling. I should try to be more aware of it. I also do tons of run on sentences and some sentences don't even always have a verb or a noun in it. My job only requires I write casual emails so it's nothing I ever had to work on.

The doctors never debated whether I was NT or on the spectrum. The debate was whether I was HFA or Aspergers. With the exception of my sister, I was a silent child until third grade. They determined it was select mutism and not delays in language itself. So I ultimately got the AS diagnosis.

I engineer communications systems that gather millions of bits of data from hundreds or thousands of different customers. The systems take the data, remodulations them, shifts the wave lengths, compiles them to a single data stream that runs at about 9953 Megabits per second, and then converts it to light and transmits it over miles of fiber optic cable. Then at the far end, we take the light signal and convert it back to the original data streams for the customer(s) with about a 99.99% succes rate. Your computer may be receiving this post over one of the systems.

I have an innate ability to see patterns in very large volumes of data and how to manipulate it to something else. Then somebody showed me how to exploit it into making a living. Now that I am thinking of it, I'm not sure I ever thanked that person. I'm so dense sometimes..

yes it does you can't do anything right even though you do try i just gave up in the end and now i'm staying indoors i gave up on people.