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30 Jul 2010, 3:38 pm

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Get out and date already ! ! You're quite young to be staying home by yourself. Enjoy meeting people, every date is just a chance to meet someone of the opposite sex. I was terrible at being a 'good date' but I kept trying. Got married at age 33. Of course your parents want you to date, it's a parental thing.


No offense but I LIKE staying home by myself. I only like hanging out by myself or with my college friends, period.


No offense taken, but you're not going to learn how to socialize by staying home. (Personally I like to stay home with the Missus.)


Isn't that a bit hypocritical? You say you prefer staying at home. So does Peko. How come it's ok for you?



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30 Jul 2010, 3:39 pm

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31 Jul 2010, 6:03 am

Lene wrote:
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Get out and date already ! ! You're quite young to be staying home by yourself. Enjoy meeting people, every date is just a chance to meet someone of the opposite sex. I was terrible at being a 'good date' but I kept trying. Got married at age 33. Of course your parents want you to date, it's a parental thing.


No offense but I LIKE staying home by myself. I only like hanging out by myself or with my college friends, period.


No offense taken, but you're not going to learn how to socialize by staying home. (Personally I like to stay home with the Missus.)


Isn't that a bit hypocritical? You say you prefer staying at home. So does Peko. How come it's ok for you?


She's young and asking if she should date. I've been married for 20 years.


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31 Jul 2010, 6:58 am

Your parents definately want you to get into a relationship. How do I know this? Because they are your parents. It's what parents want for their kids.

They will not give up hoping until you are in your 30's. Maybe not even then. There is really nothing you can say to make them stop wanting this. Buit if you always say "I haven't met the right person" they may give up talking to you about it.



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31 Jul 2010, 3:02 pm

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Buit if you always say "I haven't met the right person" they may give up talking to you about it.


Or at least only mention it every six months instead of every day.


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01 Aug 2010, 6:43 am

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Your parents definately want you to get into a relationship. How do I know this? Because they are your parents. It's what parents want for their kids.

They will not give up hoping until you are in your 30's. Maybe not even then. There is really nothing you can say to make them stop wanting this.


Some never give up. I recently read about a website where parents want people to date their grown children.


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01 Aug 2010, 8:34 am

Well, you're 19 and you're in college. You're more than old and mature enough to make decisions for yourself.

Pretty sure that isn't any news to you, but I suppose it's refreshing to hear.


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01 Aug 2010, 6:14 pm

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Well, you're 19 and you're in college. You're more than old and mature enough to make decisions for yourself.

Pretty sure that isn't any news to you, but I suppose it's refreshing to hear.


The fact I'm in college is another reason I don't want a relationship on top of other personal autie related issues. I don't want to be distracted from my work to an extreme degree and (to put it mildly) not everyone in a college environment actually puts their work first... Ironically, my parents even admit that I look and act a lot younger than I am (I'm guessing I have toddler, kindergarten, and 12-17 year old characteristics mixed up with very few adult characteristics in a "19" year old body) so I'm not mature enough to have a healthy relationship anyways :)


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01 Aug 2010, 9:09 pm

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The fact I'm in college is another reason I don't want a relationship on top of other personal autie related issues. I don't want to be distracted from my work to an extreme degree and (to put it mildly) not everyone in a college environment actually puts their work first...


REALLY ?!? :lol:

Glad to hear I'm not the only one who thought/thinks that way.

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Ironically, my parents even admit that I look and act a lot younger than I am (I'm guessing I have toddler, kindergarten, and 12-17 year old characteristics mixed up with very few adult characteristics in a "19" year old body) so I'm not mature enough to have a healthy relationship anyways :)


The fact that you realize this means that you're more mature in other ways than you realize. :D

I wasn't ready to be in a relationship until my late 20's (and I used to think that I never would be at all). We all have to do things at our own pace.


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02 Aug 2010, 5:25 pm

conundrum: Even though I want to concentrate on my work I still socialize a lot while at school. I'd say that there's a chance that I'm in the minority who has not pulled a all nighter in my first year of college. Latest I've stayed up 'til was three


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02 Aug 2010, 7:04 pm

Then what you're doing is working for you. :)


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