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12 Oct 2010, 10:09 am

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This feeling gets more and more painful year by year. I always thought you matured by the years but I feel like it's the opposite with me. I don't have the money to see "psychologists" or people of "high" profession.

I've heard of arranged marriages. I use to be staunchly against them. On the other hand, how do you build not just sex but a friendships toward the other sex? It seems so many men are very black and white when it comes to sex and friendship.


I know some Indian, Jamacan, Polish or Korean guys with good money, who are looking for a wife....I'm only after 20%, lets talk!

Ya know I dont think your that alone with how you feel.

Its amazing down at the duck pond and along the waterfront, there are so many cougars now, power walking usually, sometimes they come on to you quite obviously...you might want to learn some lines, I got

"so whats it like at your place honey?'

by two power walking cougars a few months back.

Maybe thats what it takes if everyone else is doing it....


dude did you let them know what it was like at your place? I bet you pussed out huh



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12 Oct 2010, 11:24 am

they weren't my type :wink:



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12 Oct 2010, 1:07 pm

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How do you find your "higher power"


It's down there, between my legs.



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13 Oct 2010, 12:02 am

RossIsCool wrote:
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I don't mean god in the sense of religious dogma but what gives you a sense of "hope" or the feeling to keep going?

I've asked my family members this and they say family or kids, friends. It's so foreign to me. I have no kids, I have family memebers whom I do love but have never "connected" well with except a few who are dead. I guess you never know until you're connected with?

This feeling gets more and more painful year by year. I always thought you matured by the years but I feel like it's the opposite with me. I don't have the money to see "psychologists" or people of "high" profession.

I've heard of arranged marriages. I use to be staunchly against them. On the other hand, how do you build not just sex but a friendships toward the other sex? It seems so many men are very black and white when it comes to sex and friendship.

Why can't men and women build friendship and relationships together? Why is everything defined by your gender? My cousins who's gay is now with someone he loves. Why can't I be as happy as he is?



If you want to get closer to friends and family you must communicate more. It would be my guess that you are not getting "close" enough to that person, that you are too distant for your man-friend to want to make any moves.

Smile. Look into that persons eyes when you speak. When you are in conversation, repeat back what your partner is saying in a way that shows him/her you are listening.

Touch. A simple touch on the shoulder or comforting embrace can mean the difference between a 2nd date and staying at home eating leftover chinese food.

Flirt. Flirting is the easiest way to get someone interested in you, if you are attractive.

Sex + friendship can be a bit awkward at times. In order to maintain a healthy sex + friendship relationship, you must clarify your needs early on in the relationship. Say funny words to eachother like like "vagina" or "penis" or "cleaveland steamer" just to familiarize both yourselves with what could be.

And lastly, do not stop searching. Any cliche person would tell you that "you can't find love, it has to find you" but this is false. If you know what it is you want, get it, while the chance is yours, otherwise, you may find that he will move on to someone else fairly quickly, and you are back to being lonesome yet again. Best of luck


This is a very strange post. Why are you advising MissConstrue discuss penises, vaginas and Cleveland Steamers on a date? Especially since Cleveland Steamer means taking a crap on someone's chest. This is the Haven, it is a place to talk about problems, and you should not post such stuff here.


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13 Oct 2010, 1:17 am

I have been alive for just a few decades, not even 1/3 of a century. Everyone that is alive today will probably be dead within a few hundred years.

But the universe has apparently been around for 14.5 billion years.

Even though I only remember the past few decades, every bit of me has apparently existed for 14.5 thousand million years.

And every atom of me was apparently made inside of a star.

And when I'm dead, whether or not I cease to have consciousness, I will continue to exist for billions of years, or forever. And the particles that make up me will eventually be scattered throughout the universe.

If I do somehow maintain consciousness after death in some way that I don't understand yet, the problems I have now probably won't seem so unbearable. It's also harder to blame people or maintain grudges when I think about how they're probably so focused on themselves that they don't think about how their actions affect others.

Do I want some kind of connection with someone else? Sometimes I think so. Sometimes yes, but sometimes I'm not sure.

I do think life is worth living. If I stay alive I may have 100 years(or If I'm lucky, more,) to experience things, and even if the things everyone else does aren't the things I do, that doesn't mean that I can't do new things and try to be happy.



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13 Oct 2010, 10:02 am

Surfman wrote:
they weren't my type :wink:


Too old for you? Or were they just too ugly? Cus I've seen some pretty good looking cougars before, and they had to be at LEAST 40 years old.



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13 Oct 2010, 10:34 am

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Depression is usually relieved best by exercise and enjoyments of the earth sky and water


I've found this very efficient. At least for me. Ever since I began feeling ill / depressed again, I became stubborn, been depressed way too many times and I don't want to go months and months feeling down and crying anymore. I began walking every day a couple of weeks ago and I'm already feeling much better. I'm in no way as well as I should be, but exercising is a great tool.

Also: friends, family and love keeps me fighting. :) I'm done being depressed and done letting putting myself in stressful situations I don't need.

Sometimes hope just finds me. Can't explain it. Today I feel amazing. I feel like I can fight off any problems that may come my way. : D