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Thanks for your advice i appreciate it I know her mum is at fault in this I cannot help how my family is. Mum chooses to be how she is and I accept that mum is very well educated and traditional and beleives in expanding horizons, travel and intellect. In fact I like her to go away as it helps me to be independent and avoid having to deal with her criticism. Yes Chloe's mum and her family do all live close to each other and no they haven't really gone further afield at all in fact her dad has never been on a plane (my mum has lived in London as have all my aunts and uncles lives OS at some stage or another). I do think that the mum needs to realise that I am not here to take Chloe away or make decisions for her far from it I am here to help her and give her ideas she may not have had as I am older and have life experience living as an adult aspie. Chloe's mum may find my outspoken personality (at times) hard to handle but I have never been rude or anything towards her although if I am pushed I might that's what I am afraid of. I am not going to take responsibility for her mum's issues despite being blamed for it as I know it is nothing to do with me. Some have suggested I try and talk calmly to Chloe's mum I am not sure about that I feel it may make things worse.

Without knowing Chloe and her family, i think that may be the core of the problem. Chloe's mom may simply be jealous of the help she hasn't been able to give her, instead you stepped into her little rose garden, taking control away from her. She may give the impression that your family may be at fault... but after some thought, it occurred to me that she may use it as a cover-up.

Chloe: I'd really like your view on the story as it is right now and what you think about my last post.

in any case, if you don't want to go deeper into this on a public forum, do send me a PM anytime and i'll give you my MSN... I really want to help in this matter even though i'm sitting on the other side of the planet