16 Dec 2010, 9:55 pm
I'm so sorry meow101-- I know exactly what it's like to be obsessed/ heartbroken over someone in true aspie fashion. 
But eventually you will get enough emotional distance to realize it is not worth your pain, at least not the extreme heartbreak and pain you are feeling now.
I was once so heartbroken over a man that I could hardly sleep, eat, think or or do anything for a year!! A whole year of my life down the tubes!!
Now when I look back I am able to feel very little and I know he was not worth suffering like that for-- not at all! It took a long, long, time to get to that point but i did get there. I was suicidal too and I am so glad I did not kill myself over my heartbreak! What a tragic and senseless loss that would have been. all over a cruel dope.
Life IS worth living, it's just easy for us, being human and aspie, to totally lose perspective on things.
17 Dec 2010, 6:46 pm
But eventually you will get enough emotional distance to realize it is not worth your pain, at least not the extreme heartbreak and pain you are feeling now.I was once so heartbroken over a man that I could hardly sleep, eat, think or or do anything for a year!! A whole year of my life down the tubes!!
Now when I look back I am able to feel very little and I know he was not worth suffering like that for-- not at all! It took a long, long, time to get to that point but i did get there. I was suicidal too and I am so glad I did not kill myself over my heartbreak! What a tragic and senseless loss that would have been. all over a cruel dope.
Life IS worth living, it's just easy for us, being human and aspie, to totally lose perspective on things.
Thanks for your support. I wonder sometimes if it will ever get better. I totally don't get these people who talk about how great it is to have memories of the good times. I want a f***ing delete button to WIPE them all. I wish I could go into my brain, find those memories and annihilate them selectively. I've already deleted all his emails, text messages, anything that could possibly remind me of him, but it's not good enough---those damned memories are still there and they torment me at the absolute worst times. It's times like this I wish I were NT. I think they have an easier time moving on.
~Kate
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18 Dec 2010, 7:19 pm
Why allow ANYONE to affect us that way? Is he really worth it?
if the essence of life is being liked/loved/admired - then I don't want to live either, since it means depending solely on the mercy of others and their whims. As if there's a scale and only those that can "sell" themselves in order to be liked are worthy of happiness and fulfilled life.
You're a great, diligent, knowledgeable, nice person - why allow mere affectivity to be the sole governor of your life? Why identify with those chemical impulses we call "pain"?
This world would lost a lot if you'd be gone. *hugs*
18 Dec 2010, 7:46 pm
if the essence of life is being liked/loved/admired - then I don't want to live either, since it means depending solely on the mercy of others and their whims. As if there's a scale and only those that can "sell" themselves in order to be liked are worthy of happiness and fulfilled life.
You're a great, diligent, knowledgeable, nice person - why allow mere affectivity to be the sole governor of your life? Why identify with those chemical impulses we call "pain"?
This world would lost a lot if you'd be gone.
*hugs*Thanks...I appreciate that...you and the others who have said that no person or people should be able to do this are, of course, right. I wish I could just "turn off" the part of my brain that makes me feel like this when somebody breaks off a deep connection like this. I'm still trying different things to reduce the pain, because I can't do anything destructive about it. My children are too important for me to let them down.
~Kate
20 Dec 2010, 10:25 am
