is crying a weakness?

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The more you cry, the less you pee ... go for it.

It's not a weakness, but just another way your body has to remove poisons from your "systems". Anxiety or grief so strong that you want to cry are toxic and need to be counteracted.

I wrote this when I was 14. Thought it would be appropriate here:

Stone Face

I am stone face, I am strong,
But what's inside is all the wrong.
I try my best to hide the pain,
With fear it will come out again,
The dam weakens with every blow,
It could be everyone will know.
By why must I continue to hide?
This horrid pain I feel inside?

No one will ever know my pain.
And no one will ever see my invisible tears pounding harder than the rain...
On that stone, the stone of the only one who knew me,
Who comforted me,
Who loved me....

.....

Every day I crush my soul to suppress the pain inside it.
But there are none who feel no pain, there are only those who hide it.
And the brave are those who are not afraid to show it.
And the cowardly are those who fear social wounds, they live with lies and cardboard friendships, they die alone.

Never forget us stone faces,
Never forget our hidden stones.

We should all get together in a busy City, somewhere and have a Cry Party. We can each make little speeches about the things that we cry about. Than we can hold up signs that say, "It's good to Cry!" and "It takes a lot of Strength to Cry!" Maybe those callious NTs will learn a lesson, or two.

NTs? Learn a lesson? Are you crazy?

Unfortunately people around me perceive it as a weakness.

no crying is not a weekness. You need to cry to let out your emotions because holding them inside of you isn't good. It can lead to a nervous breakdown or to sickness like i went thru in 6th grade my parents had to take me out of school for awhile so I was homeschooled for awhile until i was out on new meds and it was the same year I got my AS diagnoses. After holding in my feelings for two years, it finally caused me to fall apart I had to be taken out of school. I was also trying hard to be normal like everyone else it lead me there too. I pushed myself too hard because I was trying to impress all the Nts and be like everyone else and liked by a lot of my peers and have lots of friends.

after reading some of these posts i think it would be bad to say that i think crying is weak i don't know why i think this way it might have been the numorus times i've been told to suck it up.

the one i remember was when me and my brother were runing and jumping on my parent's bed. well i ran to fast, jumped to high, and nailed the cold hard brick wall head first and i made that one count. i went to find my parents and my dad told me to suck it up which upset me more and i ran in my room and tried desperately to bury my pain.

to this day everything that upsets me, angers me, saddness me, frusterates me, gets buried deep down till i release everything like a time bomb.

If you honestly think that it 'is weak', then you should be able to say it. But, it looks like you're somewhat undecided. Which is also alright. Everyone has the right to form their own judgements.


There is a strength in being willing to show weakness. As there is in showing compassion.

And of course, you can always go for the Sun Tzu approach. Present yourself as weak when you aren't. Encourage a reaction you are ready to exploit.

But that's another thing entirely

i think me showing any kind of emotion or whatever you call it is weak i've always considered myself heartless and i like to be emotionly dead all the time, for me to feel anything is considered weak or unacceptable.

My own personal view on this. I think it is a great thing to cry if you need to. Bottling things up and not doing so is silly and you shouldn't do it. Crying is NOT a weak thing to do. And it's not that aspies are heartless (whoever wrote that wants shot with a ball of their own hot s**t) its just that sometimes we don't quite know what to in situations where we need to show compassion or empathy. I know that, from personal experience, that I feel compassion etc but am unsure how to express that sometimes.

Crying is a much better outlet than rage, and is definitely not a weakness. I didn't realize that until I was 20 years old (I'm almost 27 now).

well looks like i'm going to get burned then because i'm the one that came up with the heartless thing about myself of course reading wikipedia helped that along, they never said heartless just lacks empathy or something.

but in the past few days i know now that i am not heartless because lately i lost a friend, well mobil theropist but she is a good friend, but the services were canceled by my insurence company and she can't visit because of some stupid rule. so i've been a rollorcoaster of emotions lately when i'm happy it doesn't feel right the rest of the time i'm depressed, i feel awful knowing i can only chat through email alone.

right now i'm sleep deprived because of a stupid mistake and i'm out of my mind and thinking about the situation makes me feel ten times worse.

It's both good and necessary to cry sometimes. Only be concerned if you feel that way ALL of the time.

I don't think you're heartless. And I also think you're blaming yourself for a random bit of misfortune. Sometimes, sh-t just happens.