Best friend no longer a friend

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Well there's a ton of people in the world and I'm sure you'll find someone new.

I felt this way when I got into a serious relationship, too. My friend was still single, and conversations grew awkward. But still, your friend could at least have been kind about ending the friendship.

Follow-up;

Yesterday I had a massage from him titled 'Heya';

Okay so that means he wants to be friends again...although the part on giving up on friends sounds like he still blames me for something.

Today I got a friend request from him on Facebook, saying;

So he sounds sorry...but I still have no idea what I did.

I'm going to send him a message just saying 'I still don't know what went on' and see what he says, as other than the initial message he replied back to me as I posted at the start of this thread he's not told me anything about why he cut me out like that. I feel like if I do make friends within him again things are now always going to be different, and that now he's in a position of power because the friendship is on his terms. He's pulled some nonsense in our time as friends...but it's not like I can go without having any friends, refusing to be friends with him (even if no longer best friends) would not only cut him out of my life but also that whole friend group.

If it were me, I would certainly find it hard to just go back on friendly terms without finding the cause of the cold shoulder! He at least can explain why he did what he did. Look at all the anguish he put you through. And, you have a point about the friendship being on his terms. I would wait at least a week before even bothering to respond. Then, maybe say something casual, like "So, what was the problem, anyway?" This is to show that you had already moved on and got busy with other stuff, even if you hadn't! He can't just brush you off and then pick you back up at his leisure!

I am in practicaly the same situation(ish) no friend emergency acomodation etc. I know how you feel, it is s**t all f*****g s**t. I moved away from newcastle hoping I would have a better life. Now all I wish for is a good death... Dont let your life get that far dont do anything stupid. dont end up like me. just keep trying.

I responded - it was on Facebook so showing as a message, it bugs me having unread/unanswered messages in my inbox.
I got an explanation from him...

...the last time we were all out I had gone home without the boyfriend, he was worried so sent a text message to the best friend asking him to give him a shout if he heard from me. Apparently the best friend somehow took from this the idea that he had said something to upset me thus making me go home on my own...

...yeah, I don't get it either, but for my best friend it is fairly standard given his habit of randomly going off in a rage over nothing (he has serious anger management problems). Really, I know I've been pretty drama-full...but just consider that he's the trigger of all this drama.

Yay, so it was all just him being a drama-queen and jumping to conclusions? (God, his poor wife...)

Glad you got an answer at last!